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Still Struck
| Thu, 03-23-2006 - 1:31pm |
It's been two weeks exactly since we broke up. At least I think that's what happened.
He won't talk to me or anything. If I try to call, he doesn't pick up or turns off his phone and never calls back.
We are in similar circles and bump into each other but he won't acknowledge me. In fact, after only 4 days, he was at a bar with a friend hitting on women!
The fact that he won't talk to me hurts so much. I have talked to various friends (male and female) and the guys just tell me that's how they work. But it doesn't make sense. If something bothered him that badly (We had a disagreement, and he sped off and hasn't talked since) but why won't he tell me?
I saw him at the gym one night as I was leaving (we used to go together) and it stabbed me through the heart.
Some days I'm kind of okay but if I have to talk about him I lose it. I miss just talking with him and being with him. God, it's horrible.
I feel like he was hit by a bus and is now dead because this happened so suddenly and he's not around.
I can't comprehend it.
I went out on a date last weekend with a guy I've known but have zero interest in. I just needed to get out. I simply spent the time comparing this guy to mine and wishing he was there instead.
Help. I'm really losing it.
He won't talk to me or anything. If I try to call, he doesn't pick up or turns off his phone and never calls back.
We are in similar circles and bump into each other but he won't acknowledge me. In fact, after only 4 days, he was at a bar with a friend hitting on women!
The fact that he won't talk to me hurts so much. I have talked to various friends (male and female) and the guys just tell me that's how they work. But it doesn't make sense. If something bothered him that badly (We had a disagreement, and he sped off and hasn't talked since) but why won't he tell me?
I saw him at the gym one night as I was leaving (we used to go together) and it stabbed me through the heart.
Some days I'm kind of okay but if I have to talk about him I lose it. I miss just talking with him and being with him. God, it's horrible.
I feel like he was hit by a bus and is now dead because this happened so suddenly and he's not around.
I can't comprehend it.
I went out on a date last weekend with a guy I've known but have zero interest in. I just needed to get out. I simply spent the time comparing this guy to mine and wishing he was there instead.
Help. I'm really losing it.

Oh, I'm sorry he won't even give you the courtesy of a clear breakup...I was on the receiving end of a disappearing act recently (after 1.5 years) and I know how hard it is to move on when you don't have an understanding of what happened.
So, you are going to have to get closure on your own. It's not fair or right that he won't talk to you, but it's how things are, unfortunately.
Not *all* guys work this way...the immature, emotionally unhealthy ones do, however.
I would do your best to avoid places where he might be, stop trying to call him, and don't try to date yet...it will just depress you. Do things with your women friends and/or your family.
Sheri
I did avoid his opening even though there was an artist I really wanted to see. That infuriates me that I feel I am missing out on things to his benefit. Times like that make it very easy to detest him.
Then today I was talking to a friend and started blubbering. It just fell out all over again. My self esteem is rather low. I still go to the gym, no matter what, I am going to get in shape! In fact, this is an incentive for me. Unfortunately, he also goes there. and I really can't alter my schedule too much. Tonight for instance, I'm going to try to leave before he arrives, but that means that my workout is shortened and I want to stay longer. ***
Anyway, typing this out to someone really does help. Thanks for the support!!