stomach aches and sleeping badly

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Registered: 02-15-2007
stomach aches and sleeping badly
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Thu, 02-15-2007 - 12:52pm

hi yall
so it has only been a little over a week in the breakup and i think i'm doing decently. i've gone through breakups and breaking up with other folks before and it is always hard. but i have a hard time coping through the sadness and it gets to me physically a lot of times. i have mild depression sometimes so i am going to talk to my therapist about it next week.

my problem is when i sink i can sink hard but since i've gone through bad points before i always try to catch myself before i sink too far.

i guess my problem is that mornings are the worst for me. usually by nightfall i'm so tired cause i haven't been sleeping well for the past week and half that i just pass out. but i have been just having anxiety dreams where in my dreams there are just time crunches and i have to do this before a time frame or else something bad happens. i wake up at 4 or 5 every night panicked and then with horrible stomach aches and cramps.

and of course sometimes he's in my dreams. the mornings are just really rough and i wake up not sure if i need to cry but mostly my heart is racing and i just try to take deep breaths. what is weird is that he broke up with me and told me that when i was ready to, i should let him know when he can talk to me again. so he put it back on my court in terms of ever wanting to talk to him again.

any suggestions about sleeping better or making it through the mornings so i can go to work without anxiety for the first 2 hours.

thanks.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 02-15-2007 - 1:07pm

Hi completelylost and welcome to the board.

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Registered: 02-08-2007
Thu, 02-15-2007 - 4:45pm
I understand how u feel..i still wake up early..in the mornings..with my stomach in knots..and yes..him on my mind..i think it is worse when my dreams are about him..but it has gotten better as time has gone on...i have been praying/meditating at night..and in the morning to get those thoughts out of my head...this board has helped me so much..just go thru the posts..read them..it helps to hear similar stories..to stay strong..vent it out on paper..do not send it...they say...give it atleast 2 months before having any contact with the ex..because before that everything is so fresh and hurting..u r to vunerable..trust me i am going thru the same thing..we all are..but like they say..get yourself better....and u will see more clarity about everything..i am so sorry...stay strong and focused!!! keep seeing your counselor..it helps....
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Registered: 02-15-2007
Thu, 02-15-2007 - 6:08pm

thank you for the replies. i try to clear my head before i fall asleep. and when i wake up i just start strangely mumbling to myself, you will be ok. stop the thoughts. take a deep breath. you will be ok.

so yeah if anyone has any other suggestions it would help. i thought the training for the half marathon and running would just make me so tired that i could sleep straight through but it hasn't.

thanks yall

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:57am

Hi Completely,

I remember those mornings very well. I used to look in the mirror and believe that each day, I looked older....like the pain, the weight of it all was worn on my face. Not to mention my eyes were just puffy slits from crying the night before. By the end of the day though, things weren't as bad and I'd actually dread going to sleep, knowing that in the morning, I would have to go through the process all over again. Yeah, mornings were the worst!

I don't know how I got through it, I guess it was just time. I remember something that my friend once told me though, maybe it will help? She had her own naturopathic clinic and studied hypnosis. You may think it's a little weird to visualize but, it actually does work.
When you are going to sleep and those thoughts won't go away. You're supposed to think of a helix, like DNA. You are supposed to imagine it rotating in a downward spiral and then imagine yourself on it as it rotates. I am not crazy, I swear.

Whenever my thoughts would stray and I couldn't imagine going through another night without sleep, I would always do this. It worked for me and I hope it works for you too.

It does get better, I promise.




Edited 2/16/2007 12:59 am ET by hopeful04
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Registered: 09-24-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 11:48am

I am also a fellow runner and training for a half marathon as well (April). I find that it helps to drink milk and have turkey because it aids with sleep. The milk also soothes the stomach. It sounds wierd but it works. What is keeping you up is the stress of this break-up, it doesn't matter if you run 10 miles a day. Try yoga because it really helps calm you and improves your flexibility as a runner.

My ex-said the same thing to me when he was breaking up with me "If you ever want to talk about this..." I told him that would never happen and it never did. But I'm glad he said that because now I see what an idiot he really was. Why would I want to talk to someone who broke my heart?

PS: Check out the running woman board on this site. They have some great tips!