Stop me from calling him :-(

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Registered: 07-10-2007
Stop me from calling him :-(
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Sun, 07-15-2007 - 2:31pm

Someone told me something today which has really made me want to call my ex and have a go at him, i really need people to stop me cause everything is going so well and i dont want to spoil it!!
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Now whats worse...your bf breaking up with you and you have a drunken night with your mates and you end up pulling a guy (ok didnt realise my ex knew him) but he obviously found out about and texts having a go at you....and your not even together anymore.

- Get back together for a few months -

Now you break up again (he does the dumping) and starts seeing someone else a little over a week later and you see them together kissing.
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My ex thinks that me kissing someone he knew and him seeing another girl when hes already broken my heart by breaking up with me - is the same..how the hell could he have been as hurt as i am, thats really not the same thing is it. And he did the dumping both times so in my eyes the first time we broke up, he didnt want me so why was i going to stick around waiting for him, i was trying to have a good time!
How can he justify his breaking up with me and seeing someone else with that s**t! I just wanna call him or text him saying what the hell are you thinking...im almost dying from heart break here and he thinks im only as upset as he was that time!! Grrr!

Am i being mad for no reason?!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Sun, 07-15-2007 - 5:56pm
Honey, he's your Ex. It's over and finito between you two. Let the past rest and move on. Nobody can stop you from calling him and nobody will tie you up to do so. If you want to call you WILL call, but you'll be stirring up a hot pot of past feelings. You're allowing his behavior to dictate how you feel. You feel angry because something you learned. That's codependency and it won't let you rest in peace. It will rule your life and will make you waste time, time that you could be investing in taking care of you.