Story of Hope
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| Wed, 12-06-2006 - 6:07pm |
I wanted to share my story of hope ...
Five months ago unexpectedly my boyfriend walked on "our" life. We had just moved into a beautiful new house ... he had just gotten a new job ... a new car ... things were going really well for both us. One day I could tell something was off with him ... I asked if everything was ok ... and to my surprise everything was not. That night he kissed me goodbye one last time and hugged me for what seemed like forever. The next morning I woke up alone for the first time in 2 years. I was terrified but somehow I pulled myself together and opened the door to my new life. Looking back I now see that what I thought was the perfect relationship with the perfect guy was really just the opposite .... I put him before myself over and over and in that journey I had somehow lost my spirit. I was not angry with him for leaving but angry at myself for letting someone take advantage of me. Since that day I have put forth a huge effort to change my life. I can happily say that today I am a different person and I will be forever grateful for my break-up. He is now dating another woman, sold his dream car he can no longer afford, and is struggling to find himself. Who would have ever thought the man who left for bigger and better things would end up with nothing ... and the woman who was left with what seemed like nothing would end up having it all. Don't get me wrong ... I don't have everything in life I always wanted but I do have my own business, a wonderful family, a dog that adores me, and great friends to hold my hand as I make my "transformation" .... so if you ask me I think I have all the things in life that really matter. To this day I still don't know how I was able to stay so strong ... even when I felt like I couldn't go on I did. At this very moment you have a choice to make .. you can either let your break up ruin your life or pull yourself together and open your eyes to all the opportunity that you have been given. Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly. Don't forget to give yourself the credit you deserve ... in the beginning even just getting out of the bed in the morning is a milestone. So take pride in how far you've come and have faith in how far you can go. I don't have a fairy tale ending and I have yet to meet the man of my dreams ... but for the first time in my life I am completely content with being alone and to me that is more than I could have ever asked for. The journey has not been easy but by being brave and facing my fears I have been able to gain back my confidence and luckily my spirit.
Hang in there ... stay strong ... just breathe and remember that you are fabulous!
A BREAK UP SURVIVOR,
Madeline

yap your totally right....SO TO YOU MISSY WAY TO GO!!!
anyways things happen for a reason...i do believe there someone out there that is mean for us....WE JUST NEED TO OPEN OUR EYES.
GOOD LUCK.
I just wanted to say Thank You for writing such a moving and touching story of hope after losing someone you love. You were able to pick yourself up and continue to have a good attitude towards life. I applaud you for making the effort. I truly believe "In what doesn't kill ya only makes you stronger".
Stay Strong!
"If you meet a soul who is not alligned with yours send them love and move along"
"If you meet a soul who is not aligned with yours send them love and move along"
AMEN - I so needed to be reminded of this....
Carrie