Struggle for love

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Registered: 08-01-2004
Struggle for love
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Sun, 08-01-2004 - 8:24pm
Its funny how we think that if we have love in a relationship that it will last forever,

Obviously this isn't the case..

After a year of stuggling to make a relationship work,

We could know longer take the constant strain we were on 1 another.

At this present moment in time I am wondering why we are meant to fall in love and why we crave to be loved so dearly?

It all ends in hurt..

I would have died for my boyfriend,

He was the love of my life,

I thought it was forever but with outer influences (jobs mainly)

It didn't!

Its funny now I feel as if I have to find myself again,

Why do we become so reliant on another being?

We all try to be so independent but yet the first opportunity that we get we will cling onto someone, letting our guards down and falling head over heals in love...

I guess its all part of growing up,

I still love my boyfriend and he loves me,

But I guess in the eyes of fate it wasn't meant to be!


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Registered: 01-30-2004
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 11:48pm
I'm so sorry to hear about your break-up...I know you're going through a tough time...but it will pass and you'll be happy again...it just may take some time. I don't have the answers to your questions....I don't think anybody really does....bu everyone can speculate of course. I hope you get feeling better soon and your recovery is a smooth one. Feel free to post on here when ever you feel the need. Good luck and keep us posted!!
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Registered: 08-01-2004
Wed, 08-04-2004 - 10:44am
i dont think there is such thing as 'meant to be' ..it is all about working hard on smth and I only learned that the hard way

everything else you wrote I have been feeling for the past two week, ever since ex and I broke up..I completely devoted all of me to him...it was amazing how much a person that was so independent and careless changed. I was even ready to settle down and I am only 23!!! All for him...

I dont know what love does to us and I dont know if I like it..I would if I had some certanties but when you read about marriages breaking up after 20/30 years you realize that nothing is given. Now, unfortunately, I seriously dont know if I will ever be able to give myself so fully and completely and let me tell you IT SUXS!

the only thing i can say is that time really does do wonders but if you LOVED this guy, like really loved, no time will ever let you forget him completely