Stupid, stupid, stupid...
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Stupid, stupid, stupid...
| Wed, 02-27-2008 - 4:02am |
I was going through withdrawls. I asked a mutual friend if my ex has mentioned me at all. She said he hasn't mentioned ANYTHING since we first broke-up!
Seriously?! After 5 weeks he hasn't mentioned me at all?!

It doesn't mean you were expendable. Men are waaaaaay different than women. I know it's hard not to think that his lack of talking about you means he didn't care, but really, I think the more hurt men are, the less they talk. Everyone handles grief differently. Also, because it's a mutual friend, he might not say anything because he doesn't want it to get back to you.
The best thing you can do for yourself RIGHT NOW is to not worry what he is thinking and concentrate on yourself and your healing. :-)
You're taking it personally,, and I don't think your ex thought you were expendable. Even if that were the case, you are better off now rather than staying w/ someone who thought this.
Lots of people, but men in particular, don't say anything when they're hurting for fear of being lableled weak or emotional. He probably didn't want anything he said to get back to you. Or it could also be that this mutual friend is not his "go-to" person for ultra-personal things, you just don't know.
When my ex and I broke up, he told no one. Not even his sister whom he's very close to. He bore his sadness on his own, and I felt badly for him not being able to unload his feelings to anyone. It helps to be able to talk to friends, doesn't it? Some people can't even bring themselves to do that.
I'd assume something like that instead of thinking your ex didn't care.
Good luck,