sudden contact from ex....

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Registered: 05-01-2007
sudden contact from ex....
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Wed, 11-21-2007 - 4:32pm

hi everyone!


ok, i broke up with my bf of 2 years at the end of july/ beginning of august (thanks to everyone here who gave me advice about that on this board previously) and have happily been moving on and getting on with my new and improved life these past 3 months- thankfully with no contact from him. then today i got a random birthday card (my birthday was yesterday, lol) from the ex and it's confusing me so much! why would he bother sending me a card now that we've broken up when he didn't even send me any when we

 

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 11-22-2007 - 12:20am

Hi feebee2007,


I think this says it all: and should i just ignore it and keep moving on? i don't particularly want to see him/ talk to him again....


You don't have to do anything.

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Thu, 11-22-2007 - 8:38am

I totally agree with Carrie.


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Registered: 06-22-2006
Sat, 11-24-2007 - 9:35am

That's happened pretty often on this board, where someone who's been broken up with will consider sending or will send a "simple" greeting card or birthday wishes after a breakup. We usually advise not to. Typically the reason they give is because they don't want to seem unkind, as in not acknowledging the important event. In all reality it's simply a weak moment that some can power through and some can't. That's all.

He reached out and you can of course decide to send a simple and polite thanks, however, that can be a catch-22 there (this also comes from seeing this on the board over and over from the other end): If you respond, the other person sometimes takes that as a sign that you want to open up communication, however if you don't respond, you may be thought of, at least temporarily, as somewhat heartless. You know you best, what do you do when people wish you a Happy Birthday?

Best,

and P.S. Happy Belated Birthday, I hope it was good :)

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