Sundays are hellish

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Registered: 12-03-2003
Sundays are hellish
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Sun, 01-28-2007 - 8:07pm

I think its fair to say breakups are like waves. While I am happy that i have good days, the bad part is that I will have bad one soon thereafter. Sundays are ALWAYS bad. Even when I make plans..even when I am with other people, i always get that impending doom & sinking feeling & DEPRESSION.

Even though I broke up with him, I did it because I wasn't getting treated correctly, & yet I STILL wonder what I could have done better when in essence it should have been him asking those questions to himself!! I can't get past 'you weren't right for each other'

And, I still can't believe he let me go. And, I still can't believe he hasn't called. the one thing I have done correctly is that I have maintained NC since the break. That certainly has helped but the pain is like nothing else...even a month after the fact.

This is more or less a rant but would love to hear from others.

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Registered: 10-09-2006
Sun, 01-28-2007 - 9:28pm
I agree. It's getting better, but in the beginning especially, Sundays sucked. I think because that was the day that we would definitely be waking up together and going to brunch and in the fall chances are we'd be out watching football. After the breakup, I'd be waking up lonely, and if I had gone out the night before, the depression was compounded by a hangover. The Sunday morning blues are the hardest to lose! ...did I just write the title of a great blues song?!
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Registered: 12-03-2003
Sun, 01-28-2007 - 9:34pm

Sadly I think I now understand the meaning behind the songs "Rainy Days and Sundays" & "Sunday will never be the same" now. And possibly now, your new one!

Breaks like this kill your self esteem. It takes a huge plunge. Building it back is so hard. And there is no pill to make it easier.

Dating isnt an option right now since its just too difficult with the pain you carry. ITs literally is like you have to go back in a cocoon and reimerge.

You would think I've never broken up with someone. OH I have but this is ROUGH.

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Registered: 12-07-2006
Mon, 01-29-2007 - 10:55pm

Boy do i agree. I hate sundays!! I pretty much hate everyday after the breakup but sundays and saturdays are the absolute worst. I hope it will get better one day for the both of us.

Although for me it seems impossible. I was so crazy in love with my ex for 8yrs of my life 15-23 and i am completely lost and absolutely think i will never find a new love for that matter. I am terrified for this future i have been given. I am so lonely and dont want to be alone forever. I want my comfortable life back but it will never happen.

I love this board because i dont feel so alone at times. I am sorry i dont have too much advice but i wish us bot the best and help to get us through this awful time and hopefully we will be granted a better future than the one i see now.

Take Care

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Registered: 01-27-2007
Mon, 01-29-2007 - 11:52pm

Hi jr

I had a pretty bad Sunday this week too. And it hit my like a brick, I never saw it coming. Now I am resolving to having something planned for Sundays. I am thinking I will go to church and then have brunch with friends. I think waking up with an alarm and then having a purpose for the day will help. Even though it's usually a lounge day, lounging just gets me to thinking and remembering...