Surprise

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Registered: 10-16-2007
Surprise
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Tue, 10-16-2007 - 10:23am

After dating for a little over a year, the bf decided to break it off via phone for no apparent reason. I did NC for 6 weeks and just when I found myself getting through the day without thinking of him every second, he texts me in the wee hours of the morning to say he wants to talk and has been thinking about me. I texted him back and said give me a call when you want to talk and haven't heard from him since (a week ago). Last night I attended a function with some mutual friends and learned that he has been seeing someone for at least a month (he ended our relationship about a month and a half ago). I didn't see her but supposedly she bears a striking resemblance to a larger version of me (I'm petite).


I was never under the impression that he cheated but I guess there was a reason he didn't share with me when we broke up. We were so close and this came out of the blue. We did everything together; he made me think I was closer to him than he has ever let anyone be. I feel betrayed and deceived, I honestly had no idea there was anything wrong. Just when I found myself getting over everything I feel like I'm right back where I started. Here I was thinking he wanted to work our non-existing issues out and come to find out he is already seeing someone else.


I don't really have a question, but I am really confused and wanted to share my not so pleasant experience with others to see what we can all learn from it!


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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: bluesky08
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 11:34am

Welcome to the board bluesky08,


How hard for you..... to find out he's seeing someone else that quickly and for him to text you, in his weak moment - him not following through is probably a good thing, but that doesn't make it hurt any less.


Sorry you are going through this.

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Registered: 10-16-2007
In reply to: bluesky08
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 2:14pm
Thanks, I don't want to burnout my friends constantly talking about this! It is just hard to start all over after I had made so much progress. There are so many things I want to say to him but I know NC is the way to go.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: bluesky08
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 2:29pm

Tell him in an UNSENT letter.

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Registered: 10-28-2005
In reply to: bluesky08
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 2:45pm
Nope, it makes no sense. Welcome to the insanity.
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Registered: 10-16-2007
In reply to: bluesky08
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 11:22am
He sent me another text message yesterday when he got off of work to day he 'heard' I was out have fun the night before last and wanted to say hi. Last time he did this I said to call if he wants to talk so I'm assuming he doesn't want to talk, but why make the contact? I did not and will not reply to this but I am wondering if there is anything I can do to get closure or keep up the agony of NC and hope I get over this...again.
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Registered: 09-30-2006
In reply to: bluesky08
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 12:01pm

sounds like he's trying to keep things open so he can come back if he wants...


just ignore him & let him dream about all the fun you're having. he knows your phone number if he's serious about talking with you again.

 

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: bluesky08
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 12:08pm

::but why make the contact?


He wants to make sure you don't 'forget' about him. Like that's going to happen. LOL

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Registered: 10-16-2007
In reply to: bluesky08
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 3:31pm
I'm back to writing in my journal and keeping myself busy at work. Thanks for the advice. NC, here we go again! At least I can sleep this time around.