Survey Says?!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Survey Says?!
5
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 4:55pm

My question is based on amyjay's post....


Really need some advice...

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-01-2007
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 5:23pm

Hmmm that's a good question b/c I had it both ways during my break up 2 mts ago.
Yeah we argued over the stupid stuff but I always thought that we'd work it out just like we always had for the past 4 yrs. No big deal right!

We had Christmas together and his family came to our place for the weekend. I had gone out and bought all their presents (yes you heard me right, "I" bought all of his families presents including stocking stuffers for everyone). It was a good weekend.
Then 3 days later he decides to go visit some friends in Cincinnati (okay fine)but decides Friday that he doesn't want a g/f anymore and dumps me. What? We live together in an apt and it's just a few days before New Years. I'm flaborgasted and can't believe what I'm hearing. I seriously thought that he'd come to his senses and realize that he made the biggest mistake of his life and we'd be fine by New Years. Nope, he stayed in Cincinnati and didn't even call me. My New Years was horrible but luckily for me I was lucky enough to have been able to spend my money on his families presents for Christmas :~) JERK!

So...I guess I'd almost rather have the breakup after the holiday b/c at least I'd have that holiday to remember rather than remember my ruined holiday with the thoughts of "what could've/should've been" in my book.

My life still sucks but hey I've got Easter to look forward to right!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-12-2004
Sat, 03-03-2007 - 3:26pm

His birthday and valentines day are both cursed for me. I have been broken up with twice right after valentines day and twice right before his birthday. Last time I had bought a present I couldn't return so I just gave it to him. This time I had a card and a present. I returned the present but gave him the card. I had written in it about how excited I was about the trip we were supposed to leave on the day after his birthday. His birthday is on Thursday and I will see him in class that night. I am not going to say anything to him I already gave him a card and that was probably more than he deserved.

Luckily some friends came up with another spring break trip so I won't be here alone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-21-2007
Sat, 03-03-2007 - 9:04pm
Well, considering my husband told me he didn't love me anymore, and moved out all on my 30th birthday (6 weeks ago), then I say tell me after. I still wold have had a crappy birthday, since he was trying his hardest to not have anything to do with me, but at least I would look forward to next year being a better birthday. Now, because of this, I am NOT having a birthday next year. Even if he does come back to me, I am telling all family, friends, co-workers, etc. to not do or say anything about my birthday.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-22-2006
Sat, 03-03-2007 - 11:25pm

I'm thinking that a breakup is already difficult enough without added insult to injury. Timing is everything, and unless someone wants to be thought of as a jerk, whether they be guy or gal doing the breaking, it's always a good idea to take special/important days into consideration, whether they be holidays, personal special days, like birthdays, anniversaries, or days that have special meaning to the pair, or if someone has a personally difficult situation to get through. It's just good manners.

Take my ex-h for instance (please!) he asked me for the divorce on the same day I had four final exams in my engineering curriculum, that ass, and then there's of course the three different ex-bfs that each decided to break up with me right before Christmas, so that was ruined for me for years.

~~.: Sandra :.~~


CL- Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

Myspace Codes

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Sat, 03-03-2007 - 11:38pm
I agree with Sandra. My bf who in total broke up with me 6 times in 5 years (I know, I am an idiot), 2 of those times were right before Christmas and this last time (2 weeks ago) was right before my birthday. We even had a week long ski trip planned to celebrate which he is now going to with his family. I would have appreciated it if he at least respected holidays and birthdays but his response was: there is never a good time to break up. JERK!!!