taking a "break" on first love

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Registered: 01-05-2008
taking a "break" on first love
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Sat, 01-05-2008 - 9:21pm

Hi everyone! I am new here and am looking for some advice on my situation with my long-term boyfriend. For some background, we are both 20 and we have been together for over two and a half years. We met in high school and we

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Registered: 11-05-2006
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 6:48pm
Going through this recently, the only advice I have is...please eat. Believe me, I know how hard it is to force yourself when you're physically sick and sometimes can't even keep it down. But not eating only makes the situation worse, you need to take care of yourself. My psychologist told me to just eat spoonfuls of peanut butter if I hadn't eaten at all that day, lol. It works though. Keeping you in my thoughts and I hope it works out!
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Registered: 01-24-2007
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 7:30pm

laur


dont feel helpless. In a few weeks you will find it a little easier to get thru the days- there will be moments of total sadness and emotions for a few months to come. But slowly those moments will get farther apart. The weekends are the toughest. Please do not wait for him to contact you because you will spend all your time wondering if today is the day- and it will only add to your anguish. Wake up each day knowing he WON'T call.

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Registered: 01-05-2008
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 6:51pm
He texted me today. I had done so well at not contacting him and was even feeling a little bit better. I woke up this morning telling myself that he wouldn't call, went to my classes and even enjoyed them...but then I looked at my phone this afternoon and there was a text from him. As much as I wanted to be strong...I had to respond. I wanted to know what he would say and how he was doing. We texted back and forth for a long time and he even told me that he misses me and loves me.It was so nice.I also caved and told him about how I was feeling..I had to get it out.But now I am just wondering if I screwed up... I want to keep in touch with him because I don't want us to grow apart (since he says that he has the intention of us being together after he has some time apart)but then again I don't want him to feel like I infringed on his space by telling him my feelings and I don't want him to feel like I will always be here waiting for him (even though a big part of me wants to do just that). But I also just hate playing games with him...pretending that I don't want to talk to him when I do. After our little talk I felt so much better about things...even hopeful that this would really help us and we would work this out. Is it bad to be hopeful? Am I just setting myself up for more heartbreak?
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Registered: 01-24-2007
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 9:28pm

Laur


You dont know if you're setting yourself up for heartbreak. You can't predict or see the future. All you can live with is now, and now means he wants space. Therefore try to live within the circumstances as they are now and carry on about your life as if you will not get back together.

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