Talk or Not?

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Registered: 06-08-2004
Talk or Not?
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Sat, 01-08-2005 - 3:14pm

My boyfriend and I dated for one year, almost to the day. I recently decided I wa going to move to save money and he was going to move back to his parents because we weren't getting along. The night before he was moving out, we had this long discussion about how it would be different and we would talk and actually be able to start working through things because we wouldnt be stressed out about money and other things that go along with having an apartment. Anyways we planned on getting together for my families christmas 2 weeks after I was moving and then I got an email saying he wasn't coming, I was sad but i said I understood. It turns out that he was planning on coming but then we got into a big fight and he didn't come down after all. That was the beginning of the end. Since that time, we again talked and said we wanted to work on things. So we talked a few days later on the phone and he said that he thought I had too high of expectations of making this a quick fix. So I sent an email, knowing that he was working at 8am and would get it before I checked my email that day, so when i opened up my account and saw no email, I casually said "Oh I thought I would have had an email in my box today" that comment set off a wave of "Stop talking to me" and since then we haven't talked.
Do you think I should call him back? Should I leave it alone? Since we have moved apart I know he has been out with friends a lot but the biggest reasons he said he was moving home was to save money, I think that maybe he just wanted out and didnt know what to say? ANy advice?

Thanks!
Brooke

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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: brooke1617
Sat, 01-08-2005 - 5:13pm
I wouldn't call him!!
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Registered: 10-21-2004
In reply to: brooke1617
Sat, 01-08-2005 - 7:02pm
You should leave it alone. If he said "stop talking to me" (which is rather rude!), I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of letting him know that you're still thinking about him and wanting to talk to him. This may just be a case of letting the relationship breathe and him not wanting to force the fix. If you think that things can be better for you guys, let it breathe and see if things come back around.