A text message break up

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Registered: 01-13-2007
A text message break up
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Thu, 03-22-2007 - 11:29pm
ok here goes me and my now ex boyfriend had been dating for 2 months and then all of a sudden he does not talk to me for 1 week ( this week ) the only contact was through emails and msn ( feels like real commitment there ( sarcasm)) he then proceeds ( today I might add) to text me over my cell phone that "this is just not working out Im just too busy and can't make time but thanks babe..." OMG why would you send someone a text message to breakup with them talk about one of the worst ways to break with someone. Im not total heart broken but it hurt that he decided to send me a text that stated he was to busy and did not want to make time for me, But sure enough he can make time for his friends?!I thought it was going really well? I don't know what happened. How can people be soo cruel? Tell me to my face thats all I ask...(or even a telephone call but not a text message talk about impersonal) but thanks for letting me Vent...
Shygirl 243
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Registered: 05-04-2006
Fri, 03-23-2007 - 5:32am

Hi,
Sorry you're going through this. That's appalling behaviour on his part.

As awful as it is, perhaps you can take some small comfort in knowing that anyone who would do such a thing is NOT someone you would want to be with anyway.

It's going to be rough but you'll ride it out. Feel free to vent here instead of on him. At least you can open-up here. Contacting him is not a good idea. It will only delay any kind of emotional healing.

Cheers

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Registered: 02-28-2007
Fri, 03-23-2007 - 12:20pm
Don't feel too bad. My boyfriend of 5 months who said he was falling for me and wanted me to move to where he was doing his residency... broke up with me over AIM. I think some guys are too cowardly to do it to your face. If thats the case... who needs them? If a guy can be completely honest and respectful during a break-up, thats the true good guy.
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Registered: 01-13-2007
Fri, 03-23-2007 - 1:50pm

thanks and Im sorry to here about your 5 month relationship being thrown away ( thanks to HIM). I just don't get guys and how they think its ok to do an inadiquite breakup...ie; through AIM and Text messages. thanks for your help and I hope we find good men that are not cowardly.

Shygirl243

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Registered: 03-24-2007
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 6:52am

hiya shygirl

I know exactly wat u mean! it happened to me 3 years ago through a text and last week through IM.

All i can say is that this behavior speaks VOLUMES about the type of men they are- And it says NOTHING about you. I know its so hard not to take it personally but its their own flaw not yours. They are not Real Men. Breaking up with someone is a horrible thing to have to do, but not ending it in person just proves they are more concerned about themselves and 'looking like the bad guy' than your feelings.

Hang in there. What goes around comes back around.