Thanks Shadow

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thanks Shadow
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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 10:20am
Thanks Shadow- that sounds like a good book. People laugh at this (I don't find it too amusing) but he's broken up with me about 10 times through the course of our 5 and 1/2 year relationship. I thought once we were engaged that would never happen again but here I am. So maybe it did have something to do on his part. He was divorced and I'm sure did not want to even fathom being twice divorced so maybe he bailed rather than taking the risk. Thanks for "listening".
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Registered: 09-22-2005
In reply to: ka1964
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 12:09pm

I posted this in your other thread as well, but I just wanted to make sure you saw it, so I'll post it again.

Nikki
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Registered: 06-10-2003
In reply to: ka1964
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 4:26pm

hi again,
No problem lending an ear (and some advice)! This is a tough process. People can point, laugh, criticize, whatever you and him breaking up and getting back together over and over, but they won't get it unless they've experienced it firsthand.

I recommended that book because when I have been in my darkest moments of the breakup, that book somehow put things in perspective. It explains every form of commitmentphobe, the beginning/middle/end of that type relationship (why he comes and goes, why they bail at the altar, etc.) It was an amazing eye-opener for me and I think for a lot of others- it comes up in suggested reading a lot.