Is there any going back!

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Registered: 04-08-2005
Is there any going back!
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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 12:57pm

I recently broke it off with my live in boyfriend of almost 2 years. WE are in love, there are just lots of things he needs to work on. He has issues with money, and I have my issues, i.e. commitment and marriage. I broke up with him 2 times before this being trhe 3rd. He is so loving and amazing that he took me back. We are both moving out and will remain friends becuase we are best friends. We leave the window open of you never know.

My question is: Have you ever broken up with someone, and stayed really good friends and eventually realized you were meant to be together and it worked.

I really want to eventually be with him. I can not see anyone else I want to have children with.

Even if he says: You never know what the future holds - do we believe that.

Thoughts! Thanks!

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Registered: 04-02-2005
Sun, 04-10-2005 - 1:18pm

I haven't personally experienced this...but have an interesting story to offer. My grandfather recently married a woman. Because of my age I didn't know the circumstances around this but they had been together earlier in life - 30 years ago to be exact. For whatever reason, things didn't work out then, and he married another woman. After a divorce, and a move to a new state and several years of living, they decided to date. And now - they're married! I know 30 years seems like a long time, but now they both wish they had stayed together back then. It's a really happy story, and I suppose it goes to show that you never really know. Do I think this happens everyday? Well, no. In my personal experience getting back with someone never works. But in this case, I guess I must say I'm surprised!

I don't know your exact situation, but I hope that the story helps. I'm still struggling myself with moving on and being happy with myself, so I guess I like this story now. (I'm still in denial and hopeful...) Just take it with a grain of salt, because I really don't think this happens often.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 04-11-2005 - 9:24pm
I have been in your mindset in the past.
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Registered: 04-08-2005
Sat, 04-16-2005 - 7:27pm

Thanks for that.

I hope my Ex and I get back together, however we have decided that we would be friends regardless. I live with him and am moving out this weekend. The hardest thing I have ever done. He is the love of my life, and we might actually be able to work on our issues and get back together. The ball is in his court. However I hear what you are saying and you are right that we might end up just being AMAZING friends and right now I want more, but that might be just what I want.

Thanks for the supportive words?

How long were you with your ex?