On a thin wire

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Registered: 02-28-2007
On a thin wire
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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 7:59am
Well my boyfriend of five months and I talked last night. He quit the break a week early. Anyway, we talked about what we wanted from each other, etc. He said that he just wants to go to his residency and start fresh. It has nothing to do with me. But he refused to break it off with me, because he wasn't ready to yet. He basically stated that I was his best friend and is afraid of losing me... Should I make it easy on him and do it myself? I am so hurt right now. He is a huge commitment phobe and yet again, he pushes another one away. I feel sick to my stomach. I just want to heal and move on, but its so hard for me to think about breaking it off myself.
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Registered: 01-20-2004
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 11:41am
Sometimes you have to dig deep. It is scary to think of breaking it off on your own, but in the long run you will be better off, as hard as it may be to think that way right now. I was with someone like this, he broke things off, then HE wanted to get back together, so we did, then he broke it off again. Take it from me, don't let it happen twice! It hurts more than it has to. Just try and look at it like he is, he wants to start fresh. Now is your chance to do the same for yourself.