Think I want to end it . . .

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Think I want to end it . . .
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Wed, 10-20-2004 - 6:45am
Hi all,

Just want to get my story out - this will be a very shortened version, but I've posted on 'relationships in your 20's - getting angry,' board if you want to know more.

In a nutshell, I'm not sure I'm happy. What I mean is, I sometimes am and I sometimes aren't. I know relationships aren't always easy, but do they have to be impossibly hard?

I've told my bf things I don't like about him - and he says he is trying to change, and I see that he is, but I just don't know if I have the patience to sit around waiting. I know that sounds terribly selfish of me, but I don't like the thought of waking up one day and realising I've wasted x number of years on something that just isn't working.

I'm not claiming to be miss Maturity, but I do think I'm more mature than him, and I've had more experience in relationships than he has - he's only had one other. I just can't believe after all I've been through that a man can still make me feel so bad. Sometimes things are great with us, and sometimes it's the worst time of my life - noone has made me cry as much as him in my life. I just don't know what to do or think anymore.

Thanks for listening

Ms xxx

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anonymous user
Wed, 10-20-2004 - 8:50am
Hi Ms,

In my opinion, if you want to end it, you should. If you're thinking about it, chances are you aren't putting much into the relationship right now, just cause you're thinking about leaving. If he doesn't make you happy, then you shouldn't stay. I stayed, cause I thought that things would get better....eventually. Well, he ended up breaking up with ME, and I was crushed, cause I had stayed and I had thought we could work it out. You're never gonna be happy ALL the time in any relationship...but it should be most of the time. Like you, my ex made me cry more than anyone ever had....but he also made me happier than I ever had been. it's tough, and it hurts, but sometimes the best thing is to just walk away and let it go. Sometimes people just don't make a good match....and it's hard to really honestly see that while you're in the middle of the relationship.

good luck, and I hope everything works out for the best for you.

Karen