think we just broke up

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Registered: 03-01-2004
think we just broke up
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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 1:03pm

I dunno, the whole thing was weird and completely unexpected. Basically he was in a bad mood and I said something to make him mad, and his response was, "well maybe we should just be friends..." I was like, umm...where did this come from? First he asked if that was what I wanted, and I said no. Then he said he thought that maybe we would be better off as friends. When I asked if he was sure this was what he wanted, he kept saying, "I don't know, I think so, I mean, I guess..." He said the comment I made that made him mad just rubbed him the wrong way. I don't know, the whole thing was very unexpected. I've never been afraid to fight with him, cause we always talk it out and resolve it quickly. That's why I was so suprised this time, and I guess part of me wonders if he just said we should end things because he was mad and in a bad mood. Part of me thinks that in a couple days when things calm down that he may regret doing it, but I don't want to base my hopes on it or anything. I told him that I hope he knows what he is doing, because I don't want to wait around forever for something that may not ever happen. He suggested taking a break, but due to previous experience, I don't really believe in breaks.

Anyway, I'm pretty upset about it, I really thought we had something good, and I was finally letting my guard down and letting myself think about a possible future with him. What do you think? Did he just say those things in the heat of the moment? Will he come around wanting to work it out? Thanks...

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 09-26-2005 - 1:20pm
I am confused so you must be very unsure..if you have a fight and it ends, how strong or stable was it?? I would say, if he verbalizes the friend thing, explore this more, find out his fears or wishes..how long you been together?? Your ages?? This is indeed odd..
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Registered: 03-01-2004
Mon, 09-26-2005 - 1:55pm
Thanks for your reply. We've been together about 6 months, he's 24, I'm 20. Both had serious relationships before, I don't think he's afraid of commitment. He has hinted around and said stuff in the past that led me to believe he was looking at a long-term thing with me. I honestly didn't think we were anywhere near breaking up, we had a great, strong relationship. I felt really secure with him. He has been sick recently, and has been having money issues. He said he had a lot of stuff going on and he didn't want me to feel like I wasn't important. I dunno...
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2005
Mon, 09-26-2005 - 5:40pm

Wow, that is kind of strange.

Nikki