Those damn holidays!! what 2 do

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Registered: 09-04-2004
Those damn holidays!! what 2 do
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Wed, 11-24-2004 - 10:05am
Here they come..the holidays, thanksgiving, xmas, new years and then the worst of them all valentines day.... if i can get through the next 4 months without the urge to strangle my ex then i have arrived...this is also prime dumping season so maybe his new girlfriend will find out how crazy he is (he 45/she 24)..he has two teeneage daughters and no money and i am sure he will not be able to keep his little girlfriend long......I hope that i find some really sexy man in my xmas stocking ..what do the rest of you plan to do???
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Registered: 06-05-2004
Wed, 11-24-2004 - 4:51pm

Hi,

Holidays are tough when you don't have someone to spend them with. It amazes me that men go for younger and younger women everytime. Maybe trying to recapture their youth?? If he has two teenage daughters and no money, I bet she's going to get a terrific Christmas present... NOT. Hang in there, we all get through them. I am going to go to a friend's house (she's a co-worker of mine) because my entire family is 3000 miles away from me (although I will be going home for Christmas). Anyhow, my friend invites all those that don't have anywhere else to go and believe it or not there are always at least 30-40 people there. Everyone brings a dish and mingles with everyone and it is always fun. A few people have gotten together after meeting there and I always think...good for them. I personally am too focused on the food to notice anyone! Just Kidding. Hope you get through the holidays okay. Take care. Lucy

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Registered: 11-20-2004
Wed, 11-24-2004 - 5:03pm
Hey there, I'll be right there with ya. I will probably be thinking about my ex with his new "love". Last year we spent every holiday together and now I have family. Just try to be thankful for that. Thats what I am trying to do even though I am really sad. Good luck!! We all have the strength!
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Wed, 11-24-2004 - 6:46pm

I'm definitely feelin you on the holidays. I've been down all day thinking about it and I'm trying my best to have a good time. I was with my ex for 8 years and I basically spent my holidays with his family, whom I grew fond of. My family doesn't always get together. I'm going to be with friends on Thanksgiving but I am worried about Xmas and New Years. I've always been with him. To top that all off I lost my father to cancer last Jan and this will be my first holiday season without him too.

I'm going to try so hard to make the best of things, to be positive like my father would want and to look at the bright side. I am meeting new guys who are interested in me and I feel certain that I won't spend Valentie's Day alone ( I better not, it's my B-day too). But today I've felt just awful. But like I keep telling myself, tomorrow is another day...

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Registered: 09-10-2003
Wed, 11-24-2004 - 11:15pm
I agree - I'm dreading Thanksgiving and Christmas. I have this urge to send him an email wishing him a happy thanksgiving. I won't. But I still have these urges. Luckily I will be with friends tomorrow and with my family on Christmas.
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Registered: 08-03-2004
Thu, 11-25-2004 - 2:52pm

greenvespa... you're nicer than me... I have an urge to send my stbx husband an email that says "drop dead A-hole!" LOL... but I'm not sending it either... sigh...

this will be my first set of holidays without him in 9 yrs too... how will I get thru them? I have no idea... but I know I will...