For those whose EX is with another girl
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For those whose EX is with another girl
| Mon, 07-17-2006 - 7:13pm |
Isnt it crazy? I think about him all day long. I dont cry anymore. Ist been over a week since I seen him for mystuff. It seems like a month. And i have more stuff to get as well but i will not go back. Its all replaceable. Expensive but replaceable. I want to call him to get my stuff But i know now he has been with this girl for almost a month A MONTH! Day one after the breakup. And I can not bare to speak to him even if hes nice. I know it will throw me back. SO I guess its not worth it to call for it. I still have his key as well. He hasnt called for it. I want to just chuck it somewhere. I know my best bet is NO CONTACT at all for good. I dont want to go back and have to wait another three weeks to get "here" again. ANd ugh i know the feeling i will have when i see him knowing the man i once loved thought of as the one 3 1/2 yrs is loving someone else. And has no interest in me. She cuddles with my dog Sleeps in my bed holds my lover's hand. I think about him all the time. But now its with a dull pain. Is that ok? Are you the same? I mean hes just constantly in the back of my head even when I am out and its been over three weeks. Even if i fill my day he is still there...Are we all like that. I cant wait till it just gets to periods of time instead of constant like it is now.

I've been following your posts now for a few weeks, even if I don't respond to them - too caught up in my own grief sometimes maybe.
yes - that's the way it is. It's been 3 weeks for me too (June 26th? did we split on the same day?) and I still think of my ex ALL THE TIME. All the f-ing time. I hate it. Wish I could think of something else. I too have tried 'filling my days' and it's no good because whenever something funny or interesting happens, my first impulse is to tell him about it. Even 3 weeks later. I hate that.
I wish I knew how to 'fill the void' you mentioned. I have the same void. It gets easier with time I think - I'm no longer up all night - every night - feeling pensive and sad. Maybe I'm up an extra hour or two feeling that way, but not all night and I'll take it.
I'll take an extra hour or two over all night. Baby steps.
Maybe we're being too hard on ourselves - I too want to be done with this - feel something other than sad and lonely. (My ex IM'd me today - first contact in exactly 3 weeks, but that's another post - this is about you. He said somethings that I wanted to hear but didn't say anything that really helped me 'move forward' in any direction)
I don't know if guys are like us. I don't think they are. I think they simply see relationships differently from us. I think they can move on faster or supress their grief or something. My theory is that they're conditioned so early to not be emotional that they don't necessarily know how to feel the loss like we do. I don't know. I know my ex has thought of me - I know he has missed having me around. I know all that now. But he's progressing 'differently' than I am in letting the relationship go. Not good, not bad, just differently.
I really have no advice for you here other than to tell you that I'm going through the same kind of thing you are - feeling the same things, so you're not alone in this. Reeeaaallly not alone.
Post soon and often.
L
Also take some friends to help you move your hings out, the police will not assist you that way. They are there to keep the peace.