this time it's real?

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Registered: 06-14-2003
this time it's real?
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 4:29am
i've been with this guy for about 3 years now, on and off. we've had our share of problems and have gone through many times of ignoring eachother for awhile/getting back together. however, this summer we have started to live without eachother more. we have our own lives and started to put ourselves first, which i guess is good in it's own way. i can't say we ever officially broke it off, it has just kind of fizzled out, with less and less time together. however, we do the friends thing: we go to see eachother on our birthdays, etc. at my birthday he came and brought me a present, then i was kinda rude (well, i had a few drinks) and he left. we go awhile without talking, and as our birthdays are pretty close-- it's his turn for the birthday. i call him up and tell him happy birthday, he seems in a good mood....i come over with some friends of mine. his friends are annoying and he doesn't even really talk to me. i end up leaving and swear that i'm "over him" - yeah ok. weeks go by and he doesn't even react to his birthday party, no calls to discuss the situation. this was always our strong suit- discussing everything obsessively until it was all worked out and everyone was at peace. well this time, since there was no call, i'm confused. i called him up last week to discuss this hostility or whatever, and he says he can't talk right now. i said ok, i just wanted to make sure we were ok. he said, "no- we aren't. but i can't talk about it right now, i'll call you back." so now here i am, a week later! no call.

this hasn't exactly happened before w/us, so i'm confused if i should call or not. he has a ton of my stuff at his house so my friends say that i should call him back about that. so, technically- i could use that as an excuse...but i don't really want an excuse to call him. i find this all really pathetic!