Time to move on?

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Time to move on?
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Thu, 05-18-2006 - 8:47am
I've been with my boyfriend for the better part of 2 years. Our lifestyles are polar opposites, yet somehow we click with our personalities. We share a lot of the same "morals," yet there still feels like something is missing. I have had a hard time trusting him lately because I recently discovered he has a myspace account, by suspecting it and doing a search for his name. Not only did he not tell me about it, but he actually asked me what the whole phenomenon was with this website and why it's so popular (of course, I dont have an account, so I said I didnt know). His status read "single" "looking for relationship or dating." I was completely flabbergasted when I came across this. I confronted him right away. He claims that he never uses it, it was from a long time ago, and it wasnt even a big deal. But it said he had logged in within the last 3 days. The next day I rechecked his profile and he had changed it to "in a relationship." There have been a few other similar happenings like this one with other "relationship" websites. My question is, am I a complete fool, or should I trust him?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
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Thu, 05-18-2006 - 10:17am
It sounds to me like he's lying to you, so you can't trust him. Since trust is crucial to a good relationship you need to reexamine your relationship.
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Thu, 05-18-2006 - 11:29am

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Registered: 09-18-2004
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Thu, 05-18-2006 - 7:37pm
Myspace can break a relationship. I have seen it happen. I have an account and my ex did too...it was cool because we both only allowed our friends. Of course some girls will get fresh and I used to get so mad, so he ended up cancelling his account....BUT my guy always had "In A Relationship" and almost never logged in. My thoughts about your case is that Myspace is getting huge. People are getting fresh. So if your guy denies being in a relationship on myspace he might be denying you elsewhere.
BUUTTTTTTT I have a lot of guy friends and they never even notice the whole "status" thing. So make sure he knows how his profile works.
Just start noticing the signs and what your intuition tells you.
I'm not a relationship expert so...I'm just telling u what i know about myspace.
Much Love!
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Fri, 05-19-2006 - 3:08pm
In my opinion Myspace, hi5, or any other networking site
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Fri, 05-19-2006 - 10:55pm
I gave him the benefit of the doubt, because he seemed surprised that he even had a "status" on myspace. When I later thanked him for changing his "status," he said it took him a while to even find out where that part of the profile was, and how to access it. I still check on it about once a week, and he hasnt even logged on since that day. I'm feeling much better about it all. He's only got one "friend" on there that he's known for a long time, but hasnt seen since she lives out of state, which I later found out about by asking him. There was an initial freak out phase, though.
Thanks for your comments!
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Fri, 05-19-2006 - 10:56pm
Very true...