Time to "Sort out his Issues" w/o ME!
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| Fri, 05-12-2006 - 8:18pm |
Hello everyone,
This is my first post here, ever; I've just been trying to find various means to help me during this difficult time. Having something positive to read while I'm at the computer will be very helpful...
My boyfriend of 3 years has broken up with me last Friday. Two of those years were spent in a Long Distance Relationship.
I'm still not sure of the exact reason as to why he broke up with me, but from what I've been able to determine is that he has A LOT of issues on his mind right now, the biggest one is that his father has been recently diagnosed with terminal cancer. Then he'll say things like "I'm not as interested in you," or that he's having a wondering eye, etc, which I believe are lies to help him get over the guilt of breaking up with me.
So, I would just like to know what he is really thinking, as he is very confused. He wants his space, yet, he would like me to not block him on MSN, and he created an online blogpage so that I can read about what's going on in his mind (just as he's been reading mine), and that's strange because he's normally not that guy to maintain an online blog.
So far, I have been trying to do my own things; keeping myself as busy as possible, and I'm not contacting him, or writing about him online.
Am I completely foolish to have even a smidgeon of hope that he'll come back to me?
Edited 5/12/2006 8:22 pm ET by lovely_lace

Your breakup is recent. The hurt is fresh. You were together three years. That's a substantial period of time, even if two thirds of it was long distance. You're still in touch by reading his blog. Should you have hope? It sounds like you do have hope, but it's too early to tell. My first impression is that when someone really loves you and their having trouble in their life, they want to lean on you for support, not pull away. It sounds like for some reason, for a variety of reasons perhaps, he has decided he doesn't want to be as involved with you as he was before. But he wants to still hold on to some aspects of your relationship. If I were you, I would tell him that's too painful for you. (If it is in fact too painful. For me it would be. I don't like slow, drawn out breakups.)
There's now way you or anyone else can know what he's thinking. It sounds to me like he's not even sure at this point.
My advice to you is to tell him you love him, and that you're sorry that he left. But that now that it's over you need to mourn your loss and get on with your life. Tell him to stop calling and blogging; stop reading his blog and stay away from him for at least two months. Sorry if this sounds too harsh or curt ...