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tips in getting over this
| Thu, 05-10-2007 - 9:46pm |
so sad, reading all these posts. i too had a relationship end last weekend. i'm feeling so much sadness and hurt and am blaming myself. my partner and i were together only a year and a half, but he asked me to marry him earlier this year and we were talking about moving in together next year. my situation was complicated - i'm 35, never married, no kids; he is 46, 2 teenage daugters, and a widower. i was very hesitatnt to get involved but let my guard down because we were so compatible (had been friends for a year), and we've had a lot of great times together since. his girls grew to love me and have been really upset with their dad over this. but i'd be lying if i said that i didn't harbour a lot of doubts throughout the relationship - i was intimidated my his past experiences, that he'd had children to another woman, and wasn't so keen to have more kids, something which i wasn't sure i wanted to make a decision about just yet. i sometimes felt that we were at different life stages and i was being tied down before my time. plus the teenage years are not easy and i found myself struggling to deal with behaviour i had no say in. my partner knew my concerns, and decided to call it off as the best thing for all. he said i clearly couldn't commit as much as he needed and that we want different things in life (i want to travel more, he's a homebody). though he still loves me, his responsibilities lie with his girls and he said he couldn't juggle my needs and theirs. i feel like i've driven him away with my indecision and doubts; and struggle to think i'll find anyone as great as he was towards me. i wish things could go back, but the little voice says he's possibly done me a favour. how to move forward and stop looking back?

How do you move forward and stop looking back? You just do. You have to. We all have to.
You keep your head up, your shoulders back, your eyes forward and never look down.
You just do.