Tired of the BS.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-07-2011
Tired of the BS.
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Thu, 07-07-2011 - 6:23pm

Okay here is my story:

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 07-07-2011 - 6:35pm

Hon, the first sign that he was full of BS was when he 'claimed' he knew you on FB.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-07-2011
Thu, 07-07-2011 - 6:48pm

Actually...weird...but true...he did knew me...I met him one drunken night at a bar a year ago before he deployed...I remember him...he found me through this my friend's page....I am not writting to get judged...what I'm asking is...am I wrong for how I handled the situation?....

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 07-07-2011 - 8:00pm

Are you wrong for dumping a friend who is full of false promises?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 07-07-2011 - 8:04pm

Oh, and you don't have to explain yourself to him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2006
Sat, 07-09-2011 - 1:58pm
He's probably one of those "girl in every port" types, who likes the ego boost of knowing that he has access to a number of females. Those types are great at making promises and keeping just enough of them to keep you hanging on, so they can feel like the big stud with all the chicks. Those kinds are NOT relationship material. Feel sorry for the girl he's pretending to be in a relationship with though...be glad you're not the one he's doing all the running around on!

And YES, you did the right thing. You kind of remind me of a friend of mine. She is an honest, upfront person who would never dream of being dishonest or doing anything to hurt another person, and she was completely perplexed when someone else DID do things that hurt others. She would say "but I would NEVER do something like that!!" I had to gently explain that the entire world (unfortunately) doesn't have her moral standards or her compassion. That some people just don't care about anyone but themselves. It was hard for her to grasp, but she finally had to accept that there are some bad people in the world.

Don't let this guy ruin your niceness. Just accept that he was an ego-seeking deceiver, and don't allow him back into your life.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-07-2011
Tue, 07-12-2011 - 5:21pm

Thanks for your insight :) And yes...I would never hurt anyone...If I wasnt interested I would say so...ugh! its okay...I live in Hawaii this island is too damned small I know we will run into each other...and I will just ignore his ass....Im not ugly...It just bothers me that its been a while since I like anyone...and I wasted my time with him...

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 07-19-2011 - 12:49pm

You may have wasted time with him but really rarely can you tell from the get-go whether or not a person is full of crap. Sometimes it takes time to find that out (and is that time really "wasted" if you learned something from it?).

Yeah he's BS. It's really frustrating being an honest person in a world full of dishonest/flaky/vague men. Thankfully there are some good ones.