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too Complicated to believe
| Sun, 08-29-2004 - 9:50pm |
I'm new to this and I need to share my story, and ask for advise. Here goes...a couple of months ago, I met an amazing guy, he was perfect in my eyes. We got along great, we liked each other lots. Our relationship bloomed fast, probably too fast. He spoke about eventually moving in together, having kids, the whole bit. This was my first relationship that I actually felt he was the one. My friends commented on this. He introduced me to his parents and friends a week after we met. But I wasn't his first serious relationship, he was engaged and they broke up only a few months before we met. So he was still dealing with this and the depression of the breakup. He sees a therapist. He went to see for the first time after we started seeing each other, and he wasn't happy with how the session went. That weekend he just blew me off, didn't call...nothing. Never spoke to me about what was going on in his mind. So that weekend I wrote him an email, told him my feelings, that I was hurting and sad. He wrote me back, telling me he had a bad week after seeing his doctor, and that he wasn't ready for a committment, that it had nothing to do with me. And that he was going away for two weeks (for work) and maybe he'd figure out things when he had time to himself. And would write when he returned. Here's were the story get real sad. When he was away he found out the his ex, was diagnosed with cancer in the brain & lungs. And that she probably won't make it. I've spoken to him only a few times, I want to be there for him, if he wants me to be. I care for him and my heart breaks for him and what he's feeling. I'm not forcing my friendship on him, I don't want him to resent me at all. But now I have another problem to top this off. I just received my pap back and it came back ASCUS, and that a high risk HPV was found. I need to tell him this, but I think he's going through so much already...I don't know how.

So try not to care as much about him, i know its hard trust me..iam going through it myself.
In all honesty is there ever going to be a "good time" in someones life to hear that sort of thing. probably not.
i would just be honest and tell him...its the safest thing to do.
my message is a few down from yours