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is this too soon?
| Sun, 07-02-2006 - 1:14pm |
is loving again, two months after a break up too soon?
i don't know if it's too fast, and i'm afraid.
i think this new guy possesses more of the qualities that i want, then my previous guy did.
so, would it be too fast?
i don't know if it's too fast, and i'm afraid.
i think this new guy possesses more of the qualities that i want, then my previous guy did.
so, would it be too fast?

thattouchofpink...
Pianoguy thinks you can love ANYBODY instantly after a break-up has occurred......BUT.....
Looking at that person as a potential 'soulmate for life' is REALLY pushing things!
Can't you just enjoy your friendship a few months longer? Let the process happen naturally...if it's supposed to? This way, you're not setting yourself up for another 'unexpected heartache?'
Take....your....time!
Pianoguy
It really depends. I don't think there are hard and fast rules about these things. I think it depends on how long you and your ex were together, what type of relationship you end, who ended it and how it ended. It sounds like you're aware that there may be some "rebound effect" going on here and that can be dangerous.
Can you level with the new guy and tell him since you're only two months out of a relationship that you would like to take things slowly? If he's really into you and he's a good guy, he should understand that.
Good luck to you and thanks for reminding me that it's possible to love again.
I think if you're asking the question, then it's probably too soon.
Let me tell you a story -
My mom (back in the day when she was a swingin' single chick) was engaged to an mobster. No. Really. But then she met my dad (a schoolteacher in her town) and 6 weeks later she had dumped the Capone-in-training and was engaged to my dad. 6 months later, they were married. It's been like 37 years now and they're still together and still madly in love.
My sister dated a really 'bad boy' for 3 years and finally left him. She was so uninterested in dating but met someone 2 weeks later and liked him enough to see where it led. I'm so glad because they've been married now for 6 years and brought my beautiful nephew into the world.
Now let me give you a dose of reality.
Life ain't always like that. I've been in relationships where things go so fast and everything you've wanted is being offered to you on a plate and he's just so damn perfect! And maybe he is. But you don't really know him yet. And it's next to impossible to take a relationship that starts out at light speed and slow it down if one or both of you need a breather or a reality check.
So trust your gut here - let it go at a speed that you feel comfortable with. Get to know him as much as you can before giving him your heart.
good luck
L
p.s. is it really any wonder that I'm so messed up romantically? look at my friggin' role models! geez! (laughing)