Tried it again, way too soon
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Tried it again, way too soon
| Mon, 06-26-2006 - 10:37am |
Well almost everyone knows my story, with my girl for 4 years, finally broke up cause of us seeing each other all the time, no actual boyfriend and girlfriend stuff being done, just hanging around her house. Well for the past 3 weeks we spent a few days together a week, maybe 3-4, and i guess she felt it was going bac ot the way it used to be. When we talked about going slow, it was to start over and try again, we have so much in common and so much going on in each others lives we dont wanna miss that we decided to do that, but my love for her took over my sense and caused us to rush back to the way the things were, so now im in pain for a second time in a month, and i dont know what to do.....i love her so much, but know shes in pain, i cant help but fight with myself. Im scared to be alone... I want to fix this and be with her, but i dont know what to do.. Please Help

Hey there,
I've only been on this message board for less then 24 hours, but if you read any of my posts thus far, you'll see this whole "moving on" thing is a common theme i talk about.
I too have a glimmer of hope of getting back together some day (and living happily ever after). And it seems as though 95% of the people on this board do too. And that's okay.
I think you should move on. I think that's a good decision. I think that's an awesome decision. And to answer your question, what if she comes back? Well, IF and when it happens, YOU can make the decision of what to do then. YOU will be able to think about it and do what's best for you. In the mean time, you can take some time to figure out more about yourself. You can grow as a person, and maybe if you guys got back together later in life, it would go better because you will both have grown. Now, i'm not saying any of this is easy, and frankly, it sucks. My ex and I only broke up last week on thursday, so i'm still totally depressed... BUT i am trying to move on... even though honestly i don't want to... i think it's the best thing. Because how long can you really hold on? At some point it has to become unhealthy. You can't let your long-term happiness depend on another person. I'm sure you are an awesome guy. You sound like a hopeless romantic. Chicks dig that. he he he... But seriously, don't put all your eggs in her basket. Let her come to realize how great you are, and then YOU can decide if she deserves you.
And i think it does get easier with time. I understand being depressed every day. I still can't fall asleep and i wake up every day thinking maybe it was all a horrible dream. But every one says that it gets easier...
we'll keep in touch!!
- mikki
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