Trying to move on
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Trying to move on
| Tue, 02-27-2007 - 3:08am |
I just broke up with someone about 4 months ago. I'm trying to pick up and move on, but it's hard. I feel like that was the last chance for me and I'm losing a lot of confidence in people. I find myself shutting the world out even if I'm in the middle of a crowd. Confidence in myself is hard to come by now. I tried to read some posts but felt guilty for not giving my 2 cents. Maybe I'm okay, maybe I'm not; It's hard for me to tell because I don't always know who to lean on. Then I feel like I lean on too few people too often. It's really hard when everyone you know is coupled up.

Hi beingdiscreet and welcome to the board.
hey sweetie...i know exactly what youre goin through. it sucks. bad. my ex and i called it quits after almost four years. (oh goodness, it was horrible!) my world came crashing down on me...i was very depressed months afterwards. i shut myself in my house, put this shell around me...no one could get in...not even my own mother. i lost confidence in everything...including myself. i didnt feel as if i would find someone like him again...i completely lost my faith in love, happiness, and all that good stuff. seriously, i was in BAD shape and those around me were very concerned. but as i sat in my little cocoon, an amazing thing happened: i started to have faith in LIFE again. i started going out with friends and being social. weekly manicure and pedicures combined with designer hair conditioner became the norm. i smiled more. more importantly, i began to realize that i can be HAPPY again. WITHOUT HIM. and here i am, more 10 months later, a healed heart, a new lease on life, and a NEW man that loves me for ME and i love him too.
i know it hard to move on. and its hard. anyone who tells you its easy to break up and move on is lying most of the time. so here's my advice to you: go get a pedicure/manicure, tell yourself that you deserve happiness (cuz you do!) and that life goes on. trust me, it does. i know it doesnt seem that way now...lol. someday, youre going to be okay. bad stuff doesnt last forever.
hugs and love
amber :)