Unbelievable!!!

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Unbelievable!!!
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Sun, 04-23-2006 - 4:42pm
So, I posted on Friday how the ex called pleading to get back together. He asked to see me this weekend & we made plans to see each other yesterday. He called yesterday morning & everything was still normal....He had to go pick a friend up at the airport, then said he would call in a few hours to give me an exact time of when he would be over (it is a 3hr drive). Well, he never called!!! Here I was worrying since last night thta he got in an accident or something bad happened. I checked his myspace page to see if he was on to see if he was alive because he never returned my phonecall either. Well, he was on myspace today so he is alive.... This just confirms even more that he's got some mental issues. He he was pouring his heart out to me not even 24hrs earlier (see post below) and now this. He makes me sick to my stomach & I am so angry that he put my heart through the ringer like this. I am so pained & I just hope I can pull through it & trust again....
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Registered: 04-18-2006
In reply to: kbi22
Sun, 04-23-2006 - 4:47pm

what a freakin' a*hole! trust again, but never trust him.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kbi22
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 2:13pm

I'm sorry...but that's such typical c'phobe behavior...come close, run away.

Learning to recognize the warning signs should help you with being able to trust again.

Sheri

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Registered: 01-31-2006
In reply to: kbi22
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 4:10pm

you know what most guys are like that...if they are with friends they will actually forget about you...well actually what happen here he broke up with you and after three weeks HE ask you back and ofcourse you love him give him another chance...BUT THE BIGGEST MISTAKE THAT I THINK YOU DID IS YOU DIDNT LET HIM LEARN HIS LESSON....SO NOW I'M SSUMING HIS A BIG JERK AND HE THINK THAT WHATEVER HE'LL DO TO YOU YOU STILL THERE FOR HIM ANYWAYSS.

WELL THIS IS ALL UP TO YOU....ONE THING I COULD SAY IF HE MEANT TO SAY HIS WORDS TO YOU THAT DAY THAT HIS ASKING YOU BACK...HE WONT DO THIS TO YOU AT ALL.

ATLEAST HE CALLS YOU AND TELL YOU THAT HIS RUNNING LATE OR HIS NOT COMING TO YOUR PLACE COZ SOMETHING COME UP....JUST A LITTLE RESPECT TO YOU...YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN!!

LIKE YOU MENTION NOT EVEN 24HRS SEEN HE WAS ASKING YOU BACK AND HERE YOU GO AGAIN...WELL LET ME ASK YOU SOMETHING AND ANSWER THIS TO YOUR SELF HONESTLY....IS THIS KINDA RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU REALLY WANT?

GOOD LUCK

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Registered: 02-09-2004
In reply to: kbi22
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 6:18pm
Well, here it is now Monday evening & he still has not called. Unreal. No, this isn't the type of realtionship I want, of course not. It just sucks that I still friggin care for him even though he has proven he is an a*hole. I have no idea when/if I will hear from him again...so I see the relationship as over. I wish it was different because when it was good, it was good. It sucked what happened this weekend, but I am kinda glad I got to talk to him Fri for awhile because I got alot of things off my chest that have been on my mind since we broke up. Weird thing to me is that he totally owned up to everything, admitted he was the one making the mistakes. I even told him how I was mad at first because I was blaming myself & he said "No, don't ever blame yourself, you are great, you have nothing nothing wrong". I just don't understand how he said everything, even wanted to make plans for a weekend at the end of the month- I said "Let's just see how this weekend goes first"....How could he flip flop in less then 24hrs? I feel like I need some explanation again. His last explanation on Friday was "I don't know what's wrong with me, every time something great comes to me I self-destruct it". He said that I was the best thing that has happened to him & he has never felt this way about anyone & knows he never will, and has been miserable.... why did he tell me all this only to vanish again???
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In reply to: kbi22
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 6:51pm

He was telling you he's messed up...so while it's hurtful that he pulled a disappearing act, it's not all that surprising...because he's messed up! He's just being who he is...and until he gets some help for his issues, all he'll ever be able to do is talk about how messed up he is but not DO anything about it.

Sheri

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Registered: 01-31-2006
In reply to: kbi22
Mon, 04-24-2006 - 7:10pm

guys are like that they say what they want but didnt mean to say it....they say all sweet things to us over and ever again....just to fool us!!!

so if ever he calls again i think its better to ignore it!! make him suffer like you did. i know you love this guy so i'm not saying that dont go back with him..right now let him learn his lesson..just remember if he really meant his words to you. no matter what you do to him he will still there for you. GOOD LUCK

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In reply to: kbi22
Tue, 04-25-2006 - 10:27am
I am almost afraid if I mention the book, Men Who Can't Love, one more time I will get kicked off these boards. But it has just been the most helpful book to fully explain to me why these guys do the approach-avoidance thing, why they sabatoge themselves (and you) when the relationship is at its best. I highly recommend this life-changing read.