Unexpected Response

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2007
Unexpected Response
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Thu, 04-12-2007 - 2:01pm

I was at an early morning work event today & quite a few guys hit on me. Instead of making me feel good, I had to sneak out to cry in the bathroom & dry heave.

One would think that I would feel good about this - that I'm still attractive & charming or whatever. But instead I felt horrible.

Because the one guy I wanted to appreciate me probably was just waking up 3.5 miles north of where I was.

Anyone else have this sort of unexpected reaction?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 04-12-2007 - 3:05pm

Hi,


I've never had that experience, but I would think it's common especially if you veiw it from the point-of-view of 'why can't the guy I want it to be, be this way with me'.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2007
Thu, 04-12-2007 - 7:56pm

I have...Been broken up for almost 2 months now and I still can't go to a bar and be flirty, or feel flattered or happy that I am getting attention from guys, because I know it's not real (meaning from looks or amount of alcohol rather than who I am as a person) as well as it's not who I want it to be. I think it just means that we are not ready to make that step yet, that we are still vonerable and are still aching and just protecting our hearts.

chin up! You are not alone!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2007
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 12:58pm
I've felt exactly like this before, and had just about the same reaction. It's horrible, I know. All I can say is that when it happened to me, I just kept thinking "this is gonna pass, I'm gonna be ok" over and over. It really just means that you aren't healed yet, you aren't in a place where you feel centered and grounded yet. But you'll get there, it'll just take time.