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| Sat, 06-25-2005 - 8:49pm |
Hey girls...I haven't seen my particular situation addressed in any advice columns I've read, so I was hoping you all could help me out a little.
Last month, my boyfriend and I ended our year long relationship, amicably. We decided to stay friends and have sinced talked 2 or 3 times. Our relationship was long distance, and we were planning on being together once I graduated from college, which I did. While we were still together, I interviewed for a job in his area, which turned out to be my dream job. I got the job, and I'll be starting in September.
What makes this situation difficult is that my future roommate (in the new location) and I have been friends for years, and he is a mutual friend with my ex as well. He's acually how my ex and I met in the first place. In the past, my plan of action with exes has always been to not exactly cut my ties, but to not really hang around either. My living situation, and the fact that our mutual friend is the only person I know in the area aside from my ex, pretty much guarantees regular contact with my ex.
So I guess my question is, how am I going to deal with seeing him regularly? I don't know if I'll be over it by then (it will have been 4 months at that point...I hope I am). Do I make myself scarce when he comes to our apartment, and do I not go out with my roommate if I know my ex will be there too? I don't know if I can handle seeing him with another girl, either, should he happen to be dating someone.
Thanks...any advice will be greatly appreciated!

Hello,
It might be just as tough for your EX to come over as it is for you to have him over. Who knows you may find someone else by then also.
Good Luck!
~Lisa L