Update and Thanks to Everyone

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Update and Thanks to Everyone
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Mon, 08-15-2005 - 9:48am

Hi everyone,

I just wanted to give an update and say thanks to everyone. Tonight will be day 10 of absolutely no contact. I know that doesn't sound like a lot, but it is for me. It's still real hard, I still think of him all the time, and the fact that he lives literally right around the corner doesn't help matters, but somehow i've been able to control all those feelings of wanting to call or email and i've been able to maintain whatever dignity I had left when we broke it off for good. I've been staying busy like everyone says to, spending lots of time with my best friend and my family, playing with my 2 year old nephew who lives right upstairs, watching tv, chatting online, etc. I also went to amazon.com and purchased a few used books that I thought might help me through this. I found both a CODA meeting and a slaa meeting in my area that I think I will be going to. I will be going back to the gym tonight (I stopped going because i've been very depressed and just didn't care to go). I dont know, I just feel that it's time to stop wasting my time feeling bad about what happened. I'm sure i'm still going to have my bad days/moments, but time heals all wounds, right? I guess this didn't work out for a reason and the right guy is waiting for me out there somewhere. I just wanted to thank everyone for their support and good advice.

Jacki

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Registered: 08-15-2005
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 1:25pm
I was glad to read your posting because it gives me hope that one day I will get over my pain.
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Registered: 07-18-2005
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 3:04pm

Hang in there grrl.. I'm in the same boat - went down two weeks ago...with last week
being my birthday... yeah yuck...
Yes it hurts but hey what comes around goes around... What I did was made me a cd.
A cd of love, dissappointment, and a little pain but ends with go head on grrl do your thang... I can't stop listening to it.. it helps really does... and keeping busy with good friends and family...
Stay in prayer you'll make it thru... his loss....

Scar

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Registered: 06-22-2005
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 9:21pm
Good for you! Aren't we all in the same boat and aren't we lucky to have each other.
It has been two months since my x broke off our relationship. I think about him all the time but more and more I am beginning to realize that I deserve better than what I got from him. We all would like to think that we are worth fighting for and worth changing for, but the sad truth is that most men don't want to put out that much effort. How sad for them, that they stop growing because it is incovenient. I know that I am worth a little inconvience and that any man that I truly love is worth the same. Hope he is out there.
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Registered: 07-18-2005
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 9:27am

True... cause they only do to us what we let them do or accept...
We all deserve better...
Have a great Tuesday Ladies :)

Scar