Update to bad situation

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2007
Update to bad situation
68
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 3:52pm

Hi, big news. CLs, I'm not sure how to link this to

Photobucket

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2005
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 3:59pm
I'm sorry, that's really tough. I think about the worst news you can get is to find out they are with someone else and possibly, "in love." Now you are free to move on because the worst is confirmed. I have to ask though (maybe this is in another post). How do you keep finding out this info about him? Are you asking mutual friends about what he is up to? If possible, try to stay away from situations where you will hear about his news. It will only make you feel worse about everything. I know this is so hard, but now you can hopefully move forward!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 4:07pm

He told me himself. The last conversation we'd had before this, I'd told him I was thinking of visiting him. He now says he needs to make clear that never will be an us. Funny, it didn't sound like that before.

Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 4:25pm
See my 'Surprise' post. I am pretty much in the same boat except I don't know where the new gal came from. I found out from mutual friends that he was already dating someone and it sounds like there may have been some overlap from the end of our relationship to the next one. But there is no way I can know for sure. I think NC will work best for me...and maybe you. If he does call one of these days it would be nice to hear his crappy explanation after he built up our relationship so much and then tore it down in the same month!
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 5:09pm

he explained it to me, and maintained that he was not with her while he was me, and that when he broke up with me he didn't have any intention of getting with her. i'm inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt at this point because i don't see what he had to lose by lying (other than avoiding the label of "Cheater"). i'm wondering if he told her the whole truth because what self-respecting woman would get with a man like that, days after he broke up with his girlfriend of three years?????????????


he makes me sick

Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 6:19pm
'Come if you want' - he's something..... I can't say what here.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 6:44pm

yeah, i'm trying to heal the best i can. i think i'm still in shock.... getting with someone new just days after ending a three-year relationship -- who does that!??!


as for the trip (which a nonissue because there's no way in hell i'm ever going that city if he's there), last he said was "i can't tell you what to do. i can't tell you not to come here. but if you do come, i can't go out of my way to see you now."

Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 6:56pm

Who does that?


Someone that needs attention, validation outside of themselves, ego boost/stroke...... a Rebound


Oh, I so can't say what I want to say about him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 6:58pm

yeah, i know there's better, much much better out there. i am not taking the fall for this.


please, if you want to say whatever it is about him, e-mail me. it might help me.

Photobucket
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 7:05pm
sent




Photo Sharing and Video Hosting at Photobucket


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2007
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 7:16pm

thanks. and i've sent a response. i know it's rebound. starting a relationship based on adversity can never be healthy.


Photobucket

Pages