Update to bad situation

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Update to bad situation
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Tue, 10-16-2007 - 3:52pm

Hi, big news. CLs, I'm not sure how to link this to

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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 6:58pm
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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 7:01pm

thanks for that. now that i have my answers from him, i am trying to heal and make improvements in my life.


his explanation of the quick turnaround of relationships stemmed from him being a "completely different person." if i go by that explanation, i don't know if rebound completely applies, but whatever because i'm not with him and won't ever want to be if he stays this way.


he knows and i know that, for him, it IS all about him right now. he wants "me time" because he feels too many people took his time before. i want "me time" because i've been hurt. and i know i'm better.

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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 7:04pm




haha Thanks, Carrie. I feel the same way, but i guess im a little bias. I just had that siggy made


for me on the SMFB board, i love it! i spend most of my time on the High risk pregnancies board


though, because Olivia has brittle bone disease. shes such a tough cookie! im so proud of her.


I liked the name Olivia too because of all the nicknames i can get from it. Sorry to get off


topic ladies! i just love talking about my little princess.


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Wed, 10-17-2007 - 9:58pm
i've lost my appetite, but on the plus side, this probably means i'm finally gonna lose a few pounds too!
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Thu, 10-18-2007 - 1:08am
man, this moving on thing is hard. :( can't concentrate at work. two hours of sleep. dinner was a banana, and that took me two hours to finish.
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Thu, 10-18-2007 - 2:28am

did this really all happen? when will i wake up so the nightmare can be over?


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Thu, 10-18-2007 - 9:27am

losing your appetite is normal during stressful situations, which this obviously is. Im glad to


hear you say you want to focus more on yourself. But your last two posts concerned me.


ive said before- TIME HEALS ALL. yeah, its cliche. but youve gotta wait these feelings out.


trust me, when the love goggles are off, you are gonna look back and say "what the HELL


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Thu, 10-18-2007 - 11:26am

thank you. i'm trying the best i can to get through a really crappy time. i always feel that i need to be talking to someone, and my 300 million posts on this board help me achieve that.


he dealt with a serious situation in an incredibly poor and self-serving manner, that much i know. i feel i can't automatically write him off as a loser or judge him in the most severe way possible because i know this all is a result of him having hit rock bottom. (goggles and coupledom aside, isn't that part of what unconditional love is all about? but, of course, i'm not saying it's ok that he did this) no matter what mistakes i or any

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Thu, 10-18-2007 - 12:42pm

Remember - good days and bad days..... the key is to find a few things that help on the bad days - screaming in a pillow (one of my favorites LOL), journal writing, going for a walk, helping someone in need (seriously this one helps more than it's given credit for), being kind to yourself - manicure, pedicure, window shopping, bowl of popcorn and a movie, lunch with a good friend - a massage, yoga, dance.

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Thu, 10-18-2007 - 5:01pm

just talked to my therapist, who had some interesting insights:


some people say that when you're in a serious relationship, you shouldn't confide in close friends of the opposite sex because that greatens the possibility of you building a more-than-friendly foundation with them. she said that since my ex and the new girl were close friends while we were together, that was a start to
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