update to my weekend :(
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| Tue, 09-04-2007 - 5:49pm |
Well he did get back to me and said he thought it was a good thing for us to do our own thing for the weekend. I had already made plans with my friends, so I hung out with them all weekend. I still could not get my mind away from what was going on with us. It's stupid but I really didn't have much fun at all.
He did call me Sunday night to say hi and see how my weekend was going and to tell me about his. He ended the conversation saying that he would try to call me in a few days. Well today he did call me. Basically he said that the reasons he broke up with me for...needing space to get a job cuz he was laid off, and needing to get his stuff together... were still all true. He said that he does care about me but he is too stressed out to deal with anything with us. Then he said he does not know if he wants a girlfriend now either. He told me that I should not call or text him at all. He has some things at my place and I asked him what did he want me to do with them and he asked me to hold onto them because he would get them eventually. Then he said he would call me sometime, that it won't be this week and he can't say when, but that he would call me.
I never take breakups this hard. I don't know why it's so much worse this time. I can't stop crying about this. It's not like he did anything wrong, and I didn't either. It makes it harder I think because I know that he is a good person. I went from being so happy to being so sad and I'm not sure how to begin getting over this. I don't want to be thinking that he is going to change his mind and then he doesn't because I will feel more hurt than I am now.

I'm sorry to hear that, but not surprised given what you posted last week. I'm glad you at least did something with your friends rather than sitting home alone fretting.
So--what you do now is put his things in a closet you don't use much so you don't have to see them, and don't have contact with him. That's how you begin getting over him.
Sheri
I don't think anyone enjoys their first few outings post-break up. I remember moping on a bench at the mall with friends for a bit the day after.
Could be because it seemed like it was out of the blue. I know I took my last one harder than the others, mostly because it caught me unaware. (shouldn't have sold my women's intuition) Anyways there's not really anything you can do but pick up the pieces and move on with your life.
I think, sometimes, amicably break ups are hard to get over in the short term, but something you're thankful over in the long term. I know I don't like the fact that the laundry list of my faults that was recited to me still bounces around my head from time to time. It really messes up the good times we had.
cheers
Susanna
I'm very sorry that happened, but I'm glad you spent time with your friends instead of moping at home. Moping in public isn't a whole lot better, but at least you're doign something and getting some fresh air while you're at it ;)
All his reasons sound very logical and very honest, but what I'm not liking is that you're not allowed to call or contact (as if you would!) while he can call anytime he wants, and has already let you know it won't be anytime soon. Ok, so fine. That means he doesn't get to use you as a storage facility either, I don't care if it's just a book he left at your place, get rid of it. Holding onto stuff holds all the karma with you, preventing you from moving forward.
I'd put his personal things in a box and either tell him to come get it off the porch, or you'll ship it to him, his choice. And be sweet about it. Maybe he didn't "do" anything wrong, and there isn't a perfect way to handle breakups, but he could have done it a little better, I think. You help him do it right by giving him back his personal belongings. Keep whatever gifts he gave, we don't need to be difficult about this ;)
I'll repeat myself until I'm blue in the face if necessary: People need to be SHOWN what space really means, it doesn't mean you stay on his back burner, it means you're taking yourself off the stove.
Good luck and many hugs,