UPDATE - Torn Down AGAIN

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Registered: 09-26-2007
UPDATE - Torn Down AGAIN
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Thu, 11-29-2007 - 9:28am

Well, the story continues… A lot of you probably saw my posts within the last couple of weeks about how my then-boyfriend was being emotionally, verbally abusive and physically abusive to me. For the first time he grabbed me by the hair and got in my face. He is on a lot of pills and other drugs, he recently admitted to me that he did crack in a motel room by himself the day after we broke up. Also, I found women's panties behind his bed that werent mine (yes, I already went and got tested last night actually for everything, I'll find out results Monday). He has 2 kids by 2 different moms and lives an hour and a half away from me, and never did any of the driving it was always me. Also, not to mention he owes me $1,800. Well, that's just some of the story but I'm going to say what happened just now… And btw, before anyone says anything please know that I KNOW I MADE A HUGE MISTAKE in even talking to him again, let alone anything else, and I don’t plan on doing it again.


Basically what happened is this: I wont even try to make up any excuses for it, I just got weak last weekend and called him, using the money as an excuse. He just happened to be out by me visiting his kids and he asked me to meet him by his old school so we could talk. Well, stupidly I went. Fast forward, we ended up staying together that night. He is back in AA and still on dating websites and in chatrooms even though he asked me to go back with him. Well, last night he said he would call me back and never did, so I got upset and sent him a message that basically said its not going to work and to please just pay me my money. He never responded. This morning he called me at work yelling at me telling me I'm crazy and that if I ever call him again he's not going to give me any of the money back. All my friends say this guy is doing me a favor and I need to just forget him and move on. I know they're right, but for some reason its difficult for me. My self esteem got cut down pretty bad with this whole thing. So that's where I'm at now. At work and in "panic" mode because this just happened.

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 10:57am
Wow girly, you really need to listen to your friends.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 11:38am

Hi Cherrygirl,


Don't beat yourself up. Pick yourself up and keep moving forward. Work on the self-esteem. There are a ton of good self-help books, you don't even have to buy them, check your local library.


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Registered: 09-26-2007
Thu, 11-29-2007 - 11:58am

Hi,


Yes, being that my last time being intimate with him was a week ago, I went last night to get tested all over again.