Update...still confused
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| Fri, 12-28-2007 - 1:38pm |
Hello everyone. I posted a couple of days ago under the title confused. Please read before reading this.
Well I talked to him yesterday. He was at work and granted he really couldn't talk much. Also, his boss is one of his best friends and not one the nicest people in the world. My ex listens to everything he tells him to do. Anyway, I asked him if he enjoyed the Christmas present I left for him on his porch. He said he hasn't opened it yet. I asked why not. He said I was waiting to open it in front of you. He told me that he loved me more than any woman he has ever loved. I am the only woman he ever wanted to marry. That he was so in love with me. That was before we broke up I assume. He said he cares so much about me. I asked him why it was so hard then. Why he couldn't just come back and he said he didn't know. I asked what he wanted and he said for us to be friends. To be able to just talk right now. I said I just can't do that. I said if you love the other woman and have moved on then just tell me. He told me that she is a good person, but that he didn't love her, he hasn't loved anyone else and he hasn't moved on. I said then what are you doing with her and he said I don't know. He has said that he would love to be able to talk to me in person and I asked why can't we talk in person and he said he just can't right now. I asked why not and he just kept saying he just couldn't. Everytime I asked him a direct question or put him on the spot he avoided the question and said he couldn't talk about it at work or said he had to go. I asked him if he knew what he really wanted and he said yes. I asked what it was and he said he wasn't going to tell me. He didn't want to lead me on or make any broken promises. He has told me for 3 months he was going to leave her but he just can't. If he doesn't love her, he's leading her on too right? He has told me that he would call me when he could and we would talk face to face. Well that hasn't happened. I also found out that he has his friends breathing down his neck telling him not to hurt this other girl. She is friends with his boss' wife. I asked him if he was happy and I said in general and he said you are trying to put me in a predicament to say something. I said no, just asking a question. I asked him if he really knew how much I loved him and he said yes. I then asked if he knew if wasn't because he had someone new and he said that he thought half and half. He kept saying that if I really wanted us to be together to just keep praying that things will work out. He said what is meant to be will be. He told me just to give him breathing room and let things happen. I know he loves me. But I don't understand why he is doing what he is doing. I feel like his friends are a big part of the problem. But then again he should be a big boy and make himself happy and not them. He told one of our mutual friends that he knows that I think this is a game and he told him that it's not a game. It's far from it. That he is not happy at all. Part of me really wants to think that things will work out and the other part thinks that I am being used as a backup plan. I just don't know what to think. Please all advice is much appreciated! Thanks!!

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You have your answer right there. He wants space to figure his life out.