V-day

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Registered: 02-12-2005
V-day
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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 4:38am

I for one am dreading valentine's day and have absolutely no clue of how to cope with it. I'm going to be on my own, my family and friends will all be at work.
I don't want this to be the day that truly breaks me.
How is everyone else going to deal with it?
I would love to know.
Thank you and I hope everyone is ok and not hurting too much.

*Hugs*

Lisa

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Registered: 04-15-2004
In reply to: nicegirluk19
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 8:20am

Lisa

I don't know how much this will help but I am ignoring it! I work in a retail store so I am surrounded by heart balloons and candy and valentine shirts but I still intend to ignore it. I am going to pretend that for some strange reason people are buying lots of candy and flowers that day and just go on with that day just like every other day. Of course that is easier said than done... but I can maybe turn it into a joke with myself. "My, my. People seem to be all going out to restaurants today.. how strange. I hope they all have reservations!" or "Why are guys buying candy for girls in mass quantitites? Did everyone go off their diets today?" :)

You can manage to get through that day! Just look at how many people are using this message forum! You are not alone that day... there are lots of single folks going through a breakup just like you! Myself included.

Good luck!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: nicegirluk19
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 9:19am

Lisa...


Sometimes it's better not to make a big deal out of the holiday....particularly if you've been involved in a recent breakup.

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Registered: 02-11-2005
In reply to: nicegirluk19
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 9:48am

I too am dreading it. I never been alone on V-day and I know its probably not a big deal, but its something new I have to deal with. I like to think I'll be at home being strong and getting over this. But I know I'm probably going to be a mess of tears and trying to banish the good and bad memories of my ex.

Its hard, but be strong. I'm probably going to be doing little meaningless tasks just to keep myself busy and not really give in to too much think-time. My house needed to be reoranized, again, anyways, hehe. =)

So don't let this day break you, once its over, it'll seem just like an another day. Here's to hoping that it'll go by fast and we'll be even stronger after it. =)

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Registered: 12-18-2004
In reply to: nicegirluk19
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 10:17am

Shhhh. Don't tell me, but since the break-up, I've been putting money down every week on a black opal ring at my favorite jewelry store. The present will be a little late. However I think I need to remind myself that I deserve nice things for no reason.

Also, I plan on taking me to Mass on Monday. Saint Valentine's message was that G*d loved us all, and that we should love ourselves as we love others. Chocolate, roses, and the like are EASY ways to express love. The more difficult way, treating someone well all the time, has a longer lasting meaning.

Treat yourself well.

Mimiche

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Registered: 10-17-2004
In reply to: nicegirluk19
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 11:54am

I'm 44 years old and believe it or not have never had a SO on Vday......This was the year that I thought I would have someone, only to impose a self-inflicted "break" to give us both time to think.

I teach kindergarten so Valentine's day will be a real event for me. Tomorrow night I'm planning to go to Borders, where I'm guessing there will be other singles. I love books and the thought of seeing other people going about doing an average kind of thing makes me feel better.

I'm wishing the best for you all.

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Registered: 12-03-2003
In reply to: nicegirluk19
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 1:52pm
As a recently single and slightly (HA!) bitter person, I think Valentine's day is just a way to sell cards, flowers, and candy. I am doing something for myself tomorrow. I made an appointment for a haircut and highlights, and if I have time, I am going for a pedicure. I am just three weeks post-breakup, and this has probably been the hardest week of all. I intend to pamper myself and feel beautiful. Ask me how I feel about Wednesday, though, as that would have been our anniversary. :( Good luck keeping your mind off of it, and hang in there. :)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: nicegirluk19
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 2:51pm

1 week post-breakup:

I'm going to the gym. It isn't fazing me one bit today. Not sure why but...maybe it was worse when I actually HAD a bf and I knew that nothing especially romantic was going to happen. Sure, he'd buy me flowers or a box of candy, maybe a card, but he was so far away (figuratively) that it was kinda of done without any fanfare. I always wanted a warm hug and a kiss....maybe just a token gift...but I wanted the actual LOVE that went along with the gift.

This year I don't have to stress over any of that.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: nicegirluk19
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 3:33pm
I know this is a very hard day to get through when you're going through
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Registered: 08-31-2004
In reply to: nicegirluk19
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 4:09pm

Hey Lisa,

Hope you got through Valentine's day well !!