Valentines Day

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Valentines Day
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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 5:10pm
How do you make it through Valentines without feeling oh-so-alone. Everything about this day reminds me of my ex. It was probably one of the best nights of our relationship. This year tho he is spending it with someone else and is doing romantic things for her. All my girlfriends have boyfriends and I've been at a complete lost with this "holiday" coming up next week. What to do???
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Registered: 02-08-2007
In reply to: skyehigh2
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 5:54pm

I know exactly how you feel. Been single for a long time apart from the odd few months here and there. Most of my friends are married or attached and keep giving me details on how they are spending their Valentines Day.

I'm sick of seeing adverts for roses, champagne, love CD's etc.. and turn the channel over.

So I thought no this year is going to be different, I'm buying myself some flowers, a nice bottle of wine and I'm going to spend time in my own home celebrating the fact that I can do exactly what I want. If on Valentines Night I wish to spend it in my PJ's with no make up watching rubbish girlie programmes then so be it.

It's taking me time to love myself (still struggling with that one) but hey, I can cope on my own and I am a good person. I have great friends (which will probably be arguing with their partners either later that night or the day after!!) So all I can say to you is enjoy because at the end of the day we are the only ones that can get us through this horrendous day!!

Smile even though you dont feel like it and be happy that you can do exactly what you want to do when you want to do it. Be that a bit of a Bridget Jones, of dancing in your PJ's whilst enjoying a bottle of wine. Even if you do still feel bad at least you can giggle at how silly you have been that night.

Good Luck..

XX

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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: skyehigh2
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 10:31pm
Most people probably do the whole flowery v-day stuff for themselves, but me, I'm doing the opposite. I'm going to get all dressed up (I've never been dressy on a v-day before, and frankly I was looking forward to it) order in some nice food (i'm on a college campus)and have a Saw marathon. Yup, I'm going to be watching Saw, Saw II, and Saw III for the night. There's no better way to celebrate a day of love then watching horror/gore movies. Unfortunately, this will be the 2nd annual (and hopefully last) Saw marathon, but last year I was perfectly content with being single, I didn't want a boyfriend... now, I want to have the romance, and so I'm going to do the opposite.
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Registered: 10-11-2004
In reply to: skyehigh2
Fri, 02-09-2007 - 9:30am
After so many V-day's without a significant other, I thought this year I was actually going to have a boyfriend. But we broke up a month ago, and therefore, I am left to do what I do every year - get take-out and drink some wine. I was always "ok" with that because I always thought Valentine's Day was pointless anyway. But it's a lot harder to face when you're going through a recent break-up. Luckily most of the ladies I work with are older/have been married for awhile, so usually there is not a flood of flowers delivered to the office that day.
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Registered: 09-08-2003
In reply to: skyehigh2
Fri, 02-09-2007 - 9:39am

Im right there with ya sister. Valentines Day is my favorite holiday. Last year my b/f gave me a HUGE puppy stuffed animal and on the arm it said, "I love you". I have it on my bed still. My b/f and I broke up on monday and we still live in the same house! Its hard b/c he walks by me like I am invisible. He told me he didnt love me anymore. So, know that there are others that are feeling the pain right with you. I wish that we could spend it together so we would understand how it feels. All my friends are married. Im the only one who isnt.

Hang in there kiddo....as I will too.

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Registered: 11-03-2006
In reply to: skyehigh2
Fri, 02-09-2007 - 7:20pm

NOPE YOUR NOT ALONE...me too..lol

dont worry we will be fine trust me...just think is just a regular day no big deal!!!!

good luck

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Registered: 06-27-2006
In reply to: skyehigh2
Fri, 02-09-2007 - 10:30pm

Yeah, this Valentine's Day is going to be rough. The only guy I ever had around for this day was my husband. Never had anyone before or after. I'm always conveniently single and, although I'm not one that needs all that romance given to me with gifts, it would be nice to get flowers just once.

I thought I would have someone around, too, but we broke up. It sucks too because I had a card picked out for him. Glad I never bought it. I dread this year because I work with a lot of young people who will all be getting flowers, etc. and I'll have nothing as usual.

Still - I've decided to go to a wine tasting singles' night next Friday. Never been much into this kind of scene, but it won't hurt to try it, right? Been sad enough and maybe, if I do this, I'll get those flowers I always wanted next year. :)

Happy Early Valentine's Day to all of us!

Christine

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Registered: 12-18-2006
In reply to: skyehigh2
Fri, 02-09-2007 - 11:24pm
I broke up with my lying cheater of a boyfriend on wednesday night of this week. He supposedly had some special Valentine's day set up complete with a limo, dinner and some sort of surprise. I guess I'll never know if he actually had plans set up or if that was a lie as well. If he had some sort of reservations, I feel sorry for whatever poor girl he chooses to woo and then lie and cheat on. As for me I think I'll stay home that day with a good book and maybe a glass of wine...
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Registered: 06-05-2006
In reply to: skyehigh2
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 9:59am

Look at it this way, it is just one day out of the year that celebrates couples. The rest of the 364 days should be about celebrating YOU. I work for the largest greeting card company in the world and I personally think Valentine's Day is overrated and I just see it has a moneymaker for my company. My ex and I were together last year over Valentines but this year I am spending it with the cutest 6 year old girl in my life which is my daughter. After 2/14, all of us singles can actually say "I did it, I made it through the most difficult day of the year for singles and I am stronger for it".

Keep your chin up!