venting

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Registered: 05-30-2007
venting
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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 6:49am

sorry guys but im having a bad moment and i need to spill

my ex has done a very good job of forgetting me but im having a much harder job. I'm pregnant so I have a daily reminder of the a hole. Whats upset me today was being in the hospital and being asked where the babys dad was. I'm trying my best to forget him and I keep getting asked! Its so hard. I'm constantly holding back tears.

I try not to be too negative but right now i really hate the sh**. I just hope when my daughter arrives that she doesnt look like him !

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Registered: 10-01-2006
In reply to: dublinrose
Fri, 06-22-2007 - 2:49pm
Dublinrose, please be strong! I know this is a very difficult situation to be in. My 19 year old sister got dumped when her ex found out she was pregnant. She is due in a few weeks. I know that this is hard for you. I send you my thoughts and prayers! Everything is going to be okay! Try not to think about the ex (I know it's probably difficult not to)and focus on your baby.
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Registered: 06-13-2007
In reply to: dublinrose
Sat, 06-23-2007 - 11:19am

dublinrose, hang in there! My husband left me for another woman. I had a one-and-a-half year old and I was 7 months pregnant with his second child. The truth is, he just wasn't an upstanding guy and I was glad I found out early on in the marriage. I filed for divorce immediately and never looked back. Also, he told people the second baby wasn't his. Revenge came when the baby came and looked exactly like him. And each day he looks more and more like him. Revenge..HA! Counseling helped also.

I can now flash forward to today and I am very proud of the persons my children are becoming. They are now 9 and 11 and I am raising them to be upstanding members of society. I don't badmouth their father, who sees them when it's convenient for him.

My advice is to do it alone - you seem strong enough to do this! My family was a great help to me. I kept my full time job and they helped me out while they were young and still continue to do so. Do you have a family that can help you?

A man that would leave you when you need him the most is not worthy of you!