Very depressed and Bitter

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Registered: 07-20-2006
Very depressed and Bitter
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Mon, 12-04-2006 - 4:02pm

hi I am new on this board.

A couple of months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of several years (6) because I was in an abusive and disrespectful relationship (I already posted on the abuse board). At the time I did what was best for both of us and I am very happy with my decision to leave him. But I just feel so bitter and empty, and I am always down. I try and be as positive as I can be ,sometimes I even succeed in fooling myself. I feel like I will be alone for the rest of my life, (my head says that this is ridiculous) but I am so scared I will never love again. I don't feel "right" and I know I need this time alone to heal myself and raise my self esteem (he destroyed it), but I don't know how to do this. I just feel like I dont' have the strenghth to do anything, and am very overwhelmed most of the time. Can anyone give me advice? Some words of encouragement?

Thank you, this is much appreciated.

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Registered: 11-14-2006
Mon, 12-04-2006 - 4:27pm
I felt like this when i broke up with my boyfriend. I wasn't in the same situation as you, but i felt like i lost my self confidence too. I'm starting the gym, am pampering myself, going shopping and spending time with mates to help myself feel good. Maybe if you're not feeling better soon you should speak to your doctor, as you've been through a lot. They may be able to recommend some support groups/couselling for you, to try and build up your self-esteem. You are on the road to recovery as you've got this monster out of your life! Well done and good luck! X
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 12:19pm

Short-term counseling can help. Here's also a list of books to consider:

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy – David D. Burns, MD
Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your Self-Worth, by Sharon Wegscheider Cruse


Carrie