Wake me up when this disaster ends
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Wake me up when this disaster ends
| Sun, 02-12-2006 - 6:41pm |
Me and my boyfriend were together 3 beautiful years. We have a wonderful 17month old, We also each have two boys from other relationships. We were a premade family, BUt loving it. About 3 weeks ago we got into a heated discussion on a drive home. Instead of talking it threw he walked out on us. He has seen his daughter once sence the break up. We had a talk the other night and hes decided that he no longer wants this and is looking else where. I feel like im dying inside. MY whole world has taken a dive. We were planning our wedding for the fall of next year, Everything was picture perfect then out of the blue hes gone. When I do get to talk to him he shows no remorse. LIke he doesn't care. Is that possible? He doesn't call, Email, Half the time were suposta meet up he doesn't show. HOw do you go from a happy family of five to a broken family? But most important how does he get over three years like it was three days?
I need advice, IM so lost.
I need advice, IM so lost.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, I know it is really painful.
brokendown318...
Pianoguy would like to offer a male perspective on your situation...which you (or any ivillager) can agree or disagree with.
If you're acting nasty toward your b/f....can you blame him for wanting to stay away? Most men want to avoid being in the middle of "verbal crossfire" if there's a lot of it around! So we'll either take off, spend extra time at work, or just completely disappear!
Granted...you both have children (your own and those by previous relationships) and the 2 of you have a responsibility where they're concerned. However, NO CHILD can make disharmony between a couple DISAPPEAR!
While your b/f might have a wisdom tooth problem or enjoy the thought of "being chased" by you...the two of you need to seriously look at what you ACTUALLY HAVE TOGETHER! If the 2 of you believe it's a relationship worth saving....get some joint counselling. If you just want to bitch and irritate one another....what's the point of letting the cycle continue?
This is NOT a lifestyle that YOU...or anybody else...should have to live!
Pianoguy
thanks for your opinon