Want to finally separate and he doesnt understand
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|Tue, 01-28-2014 - 10:10am|
I been married almost 11 years and finally have dicided I want out of this marriage... I not longer feel any love for him due to the fact that this marriage for last 4 years or so have been nothing but draining and sucking the life of me. My husband I 've always thought he most be BIPOLAR or something , one minute his sweet and caring the next his so dettach, looks at me like if he hates me, not affection for days to end.. then he says I do the same. We been having problems for years for the same thing. He says I cant live without him and I TRY to l leave him, says im his only family, that my world will change for the bad if I leave on on. I been feeling empty inside for so long, my mind and soul says leave him but then he turns into this angel and then I feel bad leaving him and I end up staying. We both have cheated on each other , if talking to other guys means that. Well yes he has caught me talking with several guys before and I have also caught him talking or texting rather with other girls. The last one was on whatsapp it was very explicit and when I comfronted him , he said the most stupid thing . He told me it was to make me jelous because I DONT pay attention to him. I believed him and stayed once more...honestly I dont feel theres a connection anymore in this marriage, I want out and he just doenst want to understand. For the past 3 weeks we didnt touch each other untill the other day that we had sex and seriously he noticed how dettached I was . I didnt even wanted to kiss him. We live overseas and I already bought my plane ticket to go to US and im seriously thinking this will be a good time to see if I indeed still love him. We have 2 daughters and he says I wont be able to bring the kids with me if we divorced cause the he cant go to the US to see them, that it wont be fair if I take cause he will only see them once a year where as me , I would have them the whole year. I been reading about on the internet on PASSIVE AGRESSIVE man and he fits all the descriptions. I think im getting crazy by all this. I need some advise. I was thinking of marriage counseling but I dont think we can work this out anymore since deep inside I know I dont love him anymore. I just want him to understand its over!