want him back, but he needs to change
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want him back, but he needs to change
| Tue, 04-12-2005 - 3:18pm |
hello. i am new to this board and i have a question. my bf and i broke up yesterday after 5 years of being together. we have lived together for about 7 months. we basically broke up because he was spending like, zero time with me, and staying at this girls house throughout most of the week. she was only his friend, but it bothered me of course, becuase we lived together and I was his gf, not her. we also argued alot, mostly becuase of that, and because i made some mistakes, like calling him too much, naggin, etc. but i have made changes on that, but now i feel like it may be too late. the thing is, i want us to be together, becuase i love him and i think that we are the ones for eachother. i have been with him since i was 15 years old, all thru high school, we lost our virginity to eachother, weve been thru a lot, and made it thru breaking up once, i just want us to make it thru this! how can i make him realize that we should be together? or does he have to do it on his own? should i just never call him or anything so he will realize that maybe im gone forever? i have told him that all i want is for him to spend more time with me and to be home more often. i am willing to make any sacrifice, except for him treating me like i dont matter. im just so confused and i hate the way this is going. i want it to just be better!

The very title you chose sends off red flags. You don't want HIM back, you want the him that you want him to be. He's not that guy and there's nothing you can do to make him be it. Honestly, if he loved you enough, he wouldn't be doing all these things you want him to change, he just wouldn't do them out of love and respect for you. That's not the case. He does them anyway, because when it comes right down to it, the real him is "me, me, me!"
He was staying at some other girls house through most of the week, while he's shacking up with you, and you are naive or blind enough to believe they were just "friends"!?
Edited 4/13/2005 12:24 pm ET ET by angelicafox