Want to Move Out, Need Advice
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Want to Move Out, Need Advice
| Thu, 09-16-2004 - 10:00am |
I have an issue - I am engaged and live with my finance' but I have come to the conclusion that I do not want to marry him. I care about him a lot, and he is generally a kind person. The problem(s) are that I don't want to leave him in a bad situation. My name is not on the lease, so I can leave whenever, but it doesn't expire for a 5 months. I don't want him to suffer financially. However, I have also financed some of his stereo equipment, and he is paying me for that monthly. That payment will be complete in about 3 months. I am afraid that if I leave before, he will refuse to pay me, leaving me in the bad financial situation. There is also the issue of our pets, which I take care of. I love them but he has said if we break up that they are his. I worry that he won't take care of them (because he doesn't now) and it would to be hard for me to find a new roomate who will allow 2 pets. He is pressuring me to make wedding plans, so I cannot put off this decision much longer. It is hard, though, because as soon as I tell him, it will be necessary for me to move out right away, so I must be prepared. Ugh, this really sucks..how can I do this smoothly???

Good luck... it won't be easy for either of you... you may just have to take the financial loss and move forward... and the pet thing I understand too... my stb-x took our German Shepherd and the cat, and although he is great with them I really miss them... I have since rescued another dog and a cat tho... filling my home back up with love!