Want to stay strong this break up
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| Wed, 08-29-2007 - 7:00pm |
I love this man and have been with him for 4 years on and off. We break up over the same thing -- another women. About 2 years ago he broke up with me to be with her, which lasted a couple of weeks. We got back together and she moved onto someone else. Then about a month ago, she became single and he started getting calls at 2am. I pay his cell bill, so I saw her number and questioned why he would actually answer her call at 2am. I asked him to not do that and explained that it bothered me and I thought I wasn't asking for much. A couple weeks go by and he gets another call at 2am and answers. I break up with him saying I am NOT going to do that drama again. It was a simple request, he knew I would be upset, and yet he still did it. A week later, I cave in and we get back together. I go to pay his phone bill again, and notice he got a call at 2am, answered and the number was blocked. OK, I'm not stupid here.
I confronted him on Sunday and we broke up again.
First, I feel like a fool, because the one that I love and trust is lying to me, with this other girl. I could hear him say "block your number so she won't tell". What a fool I am to believe him.
Second, we have had this same fight and break up MANY times. Why won't I learn and let him go?
Third, he will call me when he cools down (we were both very upset when he left). I have never had the strength in the past NOT to answer his phone calls and to get back with him.
I NEED to go through with this breakup or else it will never end. It is so apparent that he will drop everything for this girl. He is currently going through major legal issues, and I have stuck by him when nobody else would. He has been my best friend for 4 years and a part of my life. I am very close with his family too, they are the only family I have in this town, with my actual family up north.
How do I stay strong, I know I have to have no contact, which is hard-- any helpful tips would be appreciated. I really, really want to move on from him, even though I still love him so much (but don't know why!?!)

Welcome to the board pjay_67,
It is hard to stay strong.