wants my blessing
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| Mon, 05-21-2007 - 1:02pm |
i've just returned from a business trip last week and every night he called my cell at the same time, mind you i had deleted his numbers and did not pick up, because i know he is unhealthy for me at this time.
instead, i come home to find that he has sent me an email telling me that he hopes to be friends some day and that he wants me to find it in myself to see the positive and give him closure and forgiveness. i am very confused as to why my ex suddenly wants my approval/blessing on his new relationship. he was the one who left me because he didn't love me anymore to pursue make his emotional affair a reality. i'm trying to adhere to my NC policy and find that having him ask this of me to be insulting. he didn't want me any more. to top it off, he complemented me on how great i was during the relationship and how wonderful i am, but what is the point? it propelled him to do quite the opposite. he's out there dating his blonde co-worker while trying to have me to turn to for some twisted satisfaction.
knowing this only makes the hurt well up even more. it saddens me to know that i am not a integral part of his life and i've been shoved aside so quickly with a new replacement. i miss the gales of laughter and the holding hands while walking down the street. the comfortable embraces and inhaling his smell. but i try not to let them consume me, knowing that there's a reason we are not meant to be, but his sudden need only reminds me of how i need to let him go.
why does he feel the need to want all these things from me when i don't have them to give? what is the purpose?
any insight would be greatly appreciated.

He wants you to forgive him so he doesn't have to feel guilty about hurting you and he probably wants to keep you on the back burner in case this new relationship doesn't work out. But you owe him nothing so if I were you I wouldn't respond to him unless you are ready to do so.
His guilt is his own making so he needs to deal with it and not try to unload on you.
I gotta say, I agree with iret513.
thank you both for your responses.
you're quite right. i just can't believe that he would be so immature and expect that i would forgive him! it's only been 2 months, not 2 years!
also, he's not worth ruining my no contact over!!!