Warning... Net dating can go too well
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Warning... Net dating can go too well
| Mon, 08-09-2004 - 12:26pm |
I never dreamed that it would have happened this way... now I need help! I broke off a dating scenario but he wants to "wait forever for me". He sends cards, even writes emails to my mother for Heaven's sake! Constantly proclaiming his unconditional and never ending devotion to me. I'm ENGAGED TO SOMEONE ELSE! If I were to tell him that, I feel like I would be delivering the final blow.
How can I tell the world's most sensitive and an incredibly sweet sweet man that he cannot wait for me and that I cannot see him in that capacity again, without KILLING him by the reality that another man will share my life, always.

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And how do you expect to be friends with him going forward when you're deliberately keeping an important piece of information from him? That will almost certainly put the kibosh on any friendship as soon as that comes out...
Sheri
I will not tell him I'm engaged, its not his concern nor the reason for our break up, therefore, not part of the issue regarding telling him the truth about why we aren't together. The truth is simply that he lacks qualities I evidently need. Internal traits thus caution is, in my book, required.
I also clearly stated that whereas friendships are valuable, this one will require a complete disconnect (i.e. no communication whatsoever) in order for him to heal.
Something else you didn't read right?
I agree with you that you being engaged is not the reason you're not with this guy, but it is still information that would be helpful for him to have so he can let go of any hope. I know he *should* do so based on what you've told him but what we "should" do and what we do are two different things. It will help him to have finality.
Sheri
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