was doing ok until

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Registered: 04-19-2005
was doing ok until
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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 3:56pm
Today was going ok having a pretty decent day. Was able to keep my mind of my ex for a little while (For those you never read my story ex of 4 years broke up with me three weeks ago blamed it on personal things with himself but turns out he had met someone else he wanted to be with) then I get the news that he is returning all my mail that comes to the house return to sender. I know this because the week we broke up we were on vacation so my work sent my paystub to the house, they just got it back today with return to sender. He knows where I am all he had to do was forward it to me, or drop it off at my work after I left. The agreement the day we broke up was that he was going to send it to me at my mom's house. Now he's doing this. This has just killed me and brought me back to square one. I don't even know the person that he is right now. Why does he have to be so cruel that he can't even text message me and tell me that I have mail or something. He is being such a d$*k right now and I don't understand it. I didn't think things were that bad between us, we have a dog together that I was supposed to continue to see but I guess that is not going to happen. My cat is still at the house he said he would watch until I get my own place I wonder what happened to her. I'm sure all the rest of my stuff that was there is now gone. I just don't understand. Part of me was still hoping that he might call me one day and apologize but I guess I can throw that out the window. Now even more do I want to call him and tell him off but I am sticking to no contact. This is just so hurtful.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 5:21pm

That's TERRIBLE! I just responded to your other post...but what a jerk!

I hope you have made a trip to the post office to have your mail forwarded...if not, that's your first task.

About the cat...can you have her at your mom's house, or is there another friend who can take her temporarily? I would make arrangements, then call him and in a very business-like tone, make arrangements to pick the cat up ASAP. Take a friend or your mom with you.

As for the dog, you're going to have to put off seeing it until you are pretty much over him, and that could take a while (unless you have a friend who could act as a go-between).

I'm sorry he's being such a total jerk.

Sheri